Calling a Spade a Spade

Living in a state of denial for an extended period of time does a person little good. Some times it takes a whack up along side the head to literally jolt one out of denial and into reality.

In three totally separate incidents last week in Rapid City, three very good friends of mine had a “chat” with me about my weight issue. I mean to tell you, none of these three was easy on me; none of them minced words or beat around the bush in any way.

My first response was OUCH! I can’t say it didn’t hurt a lot (‘cuz it did), but after the initial shock and awe, I got my head straight, and I realized how very thankful I am that these three dear people cared enough about me to speak up. I know it could not have been easy for them to tell me what was on their mind, and I know that they only had my best interest at heart. I truly am a blessed man.

It’s not ever easy for someone to get real, to reach out, and to be sincere by, as they say, “calling a spade a spade.” It certainly takes a special quality to be able to be painfully honest with a friend, and say what needs to be said.

As I have indicated, change is taking place. I am taking action, and am already enjoying some major successes. Just saying “no” to my self is a huge thing. I am drinking lots of water, watching my portions, and am setting up accountability systems. I know it will be a process, but I know I have lots of people to encourage me along the way.

I share all of this with you today, in an effort to encourage you. Maybe you are like me, and know that there is something others have been telling you needs changing in your life. You don’t feel so good about it, but you have to admit you have just let some area of your life go too far out of control, and you know they were only “call a spade a spade”. Take time to thank those that are urging you to change, and then take the action necessary to make that change.

On the other hand, you might be one who is in the position of having to confront someone. You don’t want to do it, but you realize now is the time to get your cards on the table and “call a spade a spade.” Though the truth can, and probably will hurt, telling the truth is the kindest thing you can do for a friend.

In either case, be of courage. It’s never too late to do the right thing.

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