Back in the old days, cheating simply means being dishonest, deceitful and untruthful. Flashback to today, people have somehow come up with thousands of complex definitions of cheating, especially when it comes to relationships. From simple kisses to dirty dancing in a nightclub, almost anything that involves physical contact is considered cheating.
Unfortunately, cheating has been around forever; Diane Lane did it in Unfaithful, former President Clinton has been controversial because of it; even the bible has several accounts of adultery. And it does not end there. More and more men and women are jumping in the sack with someone other than their partners. Even television shows and gossip mags seem to center on cheating. But until today, we are far from cracking the mystery behind cheating. Why do people really cheat?
We can list a lot of reasons why people cheat: they do it for fun, to boost their ego, or simply because they are bored with their current relationship. All these reasons will end up in just one plate: unhappiness. Why do we love, in the first place? Because it makes us happy. Relationships are basically built on love, and when that love is neglected or lost, people become unhappy and start searching for someone who can give them the love they lost.
In fact, even miscommunication can cause unhappiness. When couples get too busy with their careers and lives, even the simple act of asking about each other's day can lead to missed opportunities to communicate their love and worries. And when one of them feels unloved or unappreciated, that's when they begin looking for comfort outside of their relationship. So, if you feel jealous of your husband spending more time at work than at home, tell him. Address the issue at once and upfront; that way, you can keep cheating out of your relationship.
Revenge is another reason for infidelity. Perhaps you caught your husband with another woman in the past, or you've had suspicious for his unfaithfulness for sometime now. This can be a huge factor to drive you to commit infidelity. Once the opportunity is there and the urge is great, you can easily jump into the situation and argue that you're simply doing it to get even. But remember that revenge will get you nowhere; it'll only take you farther and farther away from your partner. So, if you are angry at your partner, do not hide it. If there's no way to forgive him, get out of the relationship. Do not stay so just you can cheat.
In the end, it's usually the heart that matters, not the sexual desire. It may be hard for you to detect an affair at first; but, if you want to protect your relationship, do not just focus on catching your partner on his / her affair. Instead, build good communication lines with them. Tell them what you feel and persuade them to do the same. And try to always look at the big picture. There might be a bigger problem at hand causing them to use infidelity as a quick answer to the problem. And, keep working on igniting the spark between you and your partner; and never give them a reason to wander away.