Go back in your mind to a time when you and your wife were happy and madly in love. Can you remember what it felt like to have your heart flutter every time she entered the room? Can you remember how she hung on your every word? Do you miss that? Keep reading and I will share with you how you can start to recapture that time again.
Therapists and psychologists have reported a rise in female infidelity in the last several years. However, many husbands do not recognize the signs that their wives are cheating because female affairs often have different signs than male affairs do. Husbands are often surprised to hear that their wives have been having an affair right under their noses. There are signs that a husband simply must know before it is too late.
Emotional Affair Before A Physical Affair: Women usually do not cheat quickly. Most wives do not become cheaters overnight. Because women are relationship oriented, many affairs develop emotionally first and usually in stages. This lends itself well to many signs that a husband can pick up on early. Most warning signs will be evident long before any physical intimacy happens. Examples include:
- Suddenly sprucing up her appearance
- Taking fitness classes when she never had interest before
- Staying late at work
- Talking about a particular person at work constantly
- Not showing physical signs of love and affection
- Picking fights when she did not before OR being easier to get along with when she used to argue a lot
A perceptive husband should be able to know that a problem exists in the marriage. Just like there are symptoms to a medical problem, there are almost always symptoms of a marital problem. The cheating of a spouse is yet another symptom of a larger issue. Because women are most often emotional creatures, if a wife starts pulling back emotionally, you can believe there is a problem.
Husbands must learn to open up and ask the question: Are we ok? It is a small, simple question that can open up a conversation on the status of the relationship. Husbands often do not want to open that can of worms to create a long, drawn out conversation and/or fight with their wives. But the alternative may be an ugly divorce if there is an affair. Women do long to talk about their emotions and by asking a simple little question, a husband could possibly prevent an affair from ever happening.