NLP: Discover Confidence Inside You

I am not going to tell you that you can easily find confidence within you. Allow me to show you how, let me know how it works for you.

You have been around, you have heard the saying that you "find happiness within." OK, sure. Well, where exactly? Usually the person giving this suggestion does not have a method, just the saying. Actually NLP contains the practical solution to this enigmatic challenge. It follows that if one can find happiness within, there should be other resources "within" as well.

Let's get started.

Confidence requires relaxation. Start being aware of the nuances of confident people. How do they hold themselves? How do they express themselves? They are at ease, especially when everyone around them are in some form of organized state. This may seem to be a simple matter of no importance, but let's go deeper.

When you are in a relaxed state, you have more of your resources available to you. By the choice of being relaxed, you have more of the tools to warrant your confidence. Sooner or later, after you practice being in a relaxed state, you will start to "get" it. Simply by knowing that you have a choice, you realize that an anxious state does not serve any purpose, it works against you.

The first step in relaxation is to start to breathe intentionally in a slow, measured and calm manner. Put your tongue on the roof of your mouth, this is a martial arts technique that keeps you centered. Focus your energy on the space just below where you are standing or sitting. This is another martial arts technique called "grounding." Go ahead and slow down your thoughts and simply ask to connect with your inner wisdom. If you are spiritual, ask to connect with the Universal Mind, or whatever you may call that.

Another powerful way to access your inner genius is to be aware of what is in your peripheral vision. It is amazing how this simple technique can instantly shift perception from "tunnel vision" to a greater access to your own neurology, your own mind.

Confidence is the knowingness that you can trust yourself in a given situation. When you have your own best tools available, you will make your best decisions.

A great confidence builder is to imagine succeeding in the activity that is giving you a challenge. The more realistic your visualization of you succeeding, the better chance you have of making it happen.

These tips are very simple, yet the simplicity of water can carve rock. The power is in taking your time and trying something new. It is in trying something new that we can change our lives, change our destiny.

After you try out these techniques, let me know how they worked for you.