Anger Management – 5 Ways to Control Your Temper

Here are five ways you can take control of your anger and your life. You do not have to be a victim of your emotions any longer. Follow these steps to finding inner peace through a variety of easy-to-do exercises.

1. Start a journal – write out your feelings and then release them. Once you get them on paper, say to yourself that you’re moving on from this emotion and onto better ones. Usually, just getting it out of your mind and onto paper will help you release it from your mind.

2. Focus on breathing – doing some breathing exercises will help you to master your calmness. When you can’t control a situation, then control your breathing. Force yourself to breath in for specific counts and holding your breath for specific counts. It’s important to hold your breath some then let it out. The tension you feel from the “angering situation” will be released with the breathing tension.

3. Take up a form of physical exercise – some people, myself included, were born with an abundance of energy. When this excess of energy isn’t used for positive endeavors, it can get pent up and explode at a moment of least mental resistance. A.k.a. We lose control and get angry. That pent-up energy pours out in the form of yelling and screaming and hitting things over minute situations. Relieve this stress and built up tension by getting out and exercising. Daily moderate to intense exercise will take the bite out of your bark. I took up running and pushed my anger out through my pounding of the pavement and not on my children. Take if from me, when you’re physically depleted, it’s tough to get angry. It takes too much energy.

4. Visualize better encounters – (see yourself acting in a loving and peaceful way). Practice the art of visualization. Take the time to imagine yourself having peaceful and happy encounters in situations that normally lead to you’re going over the edge. It takes some practice but the more you see yourself doing it in your mind, the more you’ll be able to model and act out that practiced you. Do this when you are feeling good or just before going to bed and upon rising in the morning. I found that just a minute of visualization before bed and before starting my day got me to that place of calm much quicker.

5. Start affirming your improvement – affirmation or mantra – Using the visualization technique combined with a new statement about how you are improving yourself and releasing your anger go hand-in-hand. The more you get your body and mind miming the way you would like to be, the quicker those changes will occur within you. So repeat daily statements, like, “I’m getting better and better and being happy throughout the day” or “I can see an improvement already in my mood. I’m feeling good today” or “I just love this peaceful feeling. It really is the true me.”

Combine with actually seeing yourself acting out these statements and writing them down as if they actually occurred in your journal will lead you to the path of becoming Angry-Free.

How to Bridge Communication Gap in a Relationship

Relationship is a two way road either being on the right path or at the wrong side, both parties are expected to ensure that everything works out fine and the communication gap is kept minimal in spite of any rancour or trouble. No matter how closer you are to your spouse or for how long the relationship has been in existence, there are bounds to be a problem and misunderstanding between two people in a relationship. What matter most is not the course of the relationship or who caused it, the most important thing is how fast the couple were able to put the problems behind them and remain focus.

Each party is expected to take the blame and not trade the blame so as to bury the hatchet and keeps the relationship flowing. A promising relationship is expected to be a life time game while a marriage is expected to be a journey of no return where both parties commit their wealth and time to ensure the outright success of the relationship and make it a promising and alter bounds one.

Factors for a lasting relationship

The following factors must be taking into consideration in order to build a lasting, loving and lustful relationship devoid of insincerity, rancour and any other problems.

Building trust and honesty: Many relationships are breaking up in America, England and other developed countries due to lack of trust most especially amongst the so called role models such as footballers, movies stars and other popular celebrities which is fast becoming a global embarrassment. The basic cause of this is infidelity spreading like a wild fire across every home. In order to build trust and honesty, both parties must demonstrate high sense of responsibility, maturity towards each other. Your intentions, actions should be clearly stated and you should be able to answer your spouse phone calls, read his/her text messages without any restrictions. Doing all these will boost the trust and bridge communication gaps.

Reduce external influence: Thousands of relationship have broken up as a result of influence from friends and families, news from dailies and magazines. To have a sustainable relationship, both parties should feel free to share their minds and shun information from friends or news from news paper. In case there is any issue on ground your spouse should be the first contact and not your friend, this will enable both partners to settle their rift within short period of time.

Be a good listener and good talker: You should be able to listen carefully before making judgement and never be a judge in your own case. Also learn to control your emotions whenever you are hurt and never talk with passion each time you have to talk. Ability to control your emotion and keep quite when you are angry will save your relationship from going down the lane. You can say sorry as many times as possible if that will be appealing and soothing to your spouse hearing and learn to forget past issues. Stop bringing up dead issues again once it has been earlier resolved.

Do pleasurable things with your spouse: Take your time to do some crazy things with your spouse; take her out for shopping, cook together, share some meals, help mowing the lawn to doing dishes, buy romantic gifts, crack jokes, watch movies even take bath in a tub together to boost the bond between two of you.

In addition to the aforementioned, learn to respect your spouse, show your feelings as human being, stop nagging at him/her, bury your ego and learn to share things together always. By adhering strictly to the above factors, you are likely to make out the perfect out of your relationship and it will be as if you are dating all over again as a new found lovers.

Relationship is about communication and vice versa, learn to communicate with your spouse to save your relationship and stop bedroom boredom now! Fix your relationship problem as painless as possible with this article. 

How To Become A Politician

Politicians occupy a very special place in our society. As voters, we choose them to make the rules that we all have to live by, and as taxpayers, we trust them to take some of our money and spend it in a way that benefits us all. It’s perhaps unsurprising then, that being a politician is not like any other job.

If you’re reading this it’s because you want to become a politician. Great! But unfortunately, you don’t choose to be a politician. Instead, you are chosen to be a politician. At the end of the day, you have to win an election to become a politician, and that’s not something you can totally control.

What is a politician?

Good question! We all know a politician when we see one, but what’s the formal definition?

The word ‘politician’ comes from the Greek polis, which refers to both a city-state and to a body of citizens. Other English words including policy, polity, police and politics all come from the Greek root poli as well.

These days, a politician is someone who is either:

1) A member of the legislative branch of government. The legislative branch of government is the assembly (or assemblies) of people who have the power to pass, amend, and repeal laws. That assembly (or those assemblies) are collectively known as the legislature. In the United Kingdom, the legislature is all the members in both Houses of Parliament.

2) A member of the executive branch of government. The executive branch is the people who have the authority and the responsibility for the daily administration of the state. When we talk about ‘the government’ in the United Kingdom as opposed to ‘the opposition,’ we’re talking about the executive branch.

3) A member of the office of the head of state. This part of the definition doesn’t apply in the United Kingdom, as our head of state (currently Queen Elizabeth) is a nominal head of state who doesn’t make decisions. In the United States, for example, the President has an unelected Cabinet of advisors, and they are quite definitely politicians.

The pros and cons of a life in politics

Every job or profession comes with its own set of pros and cons. Being a chef is satisfying, but the pay is bad and the hours are terrible. Being a firefighter will make you popular with the ladies, but every time you run into a burning building you risk getting killed. So how does being a politician stack up? Pros:

1) Prestige. Being a politician confers status, attention and prestige. You’ll be invited to parties and wined and dined. People will seek you out, court your favour and listen to what you have to say.

2) The ability to ‘make a difference.’ If you have a genuine desire to change society for the better, then entering politics is one (though definitely not the only) way to attempt to do so. Most of us just complain about things we don’t like; as a politician you’ll have the opportunity to actually take action.

3) The pay is well above average. At the time of writing, the annual salary of a Member of Parliament (MP) in the House of Commons was £65,738, and for Cabinet Ministers, £134,565. These amounts are significantly above the national average annual wage for full-time employees of £25,800. In addition, MPs can claim allowances to cover things such as staff costs, travel expenses and the cost of running an office.


1) Your personal life will be affected. Politicians are public figures, with everything that entails. Your privacy will be affected, people who don’t even know you will attack and criticise you, and you’ll be held to much higher standards of behaviour, even in your private affairs, than anyone else.

2) The hours are long and irregular. Standing for election can mean months of 14+ hr hour days. Once you’re elected things aren’t quite so bad, but 70 hour weeks won’t be uncommon and late nights are normal when bills are being pushed through Parliament. Basically, you’ll envy people with 9-to-5 jobs.

3) You’ll need to spend a significant amount of time away from home. It is of course necessary for MPs to attend Parliament in London when the House of Commons sits. Commons typically sits for around 60-70 days in an election year (MPs need time off to campaign in election years), 130-140 days normally, and 200+ days in the year following a general election. If you don’t live in London, that’s a lot of weeks you’ll be travelling back and forth between London and your constituency.

4) Job security is nil. In politics, your employers (voters) are given the opportunity to get rid of you at regular intervals, and if they choose to do so then your political career might very well be over for good. Politicians in safe seats have much more job security, but safe seats are of course very hard to come by (we’ll return to this topic in much more detail later).

5) With the same skills and ability you might be able to make more money in private enterprise. While MPs get paid well above the national average for full-time work, that’s not the whole story. It’s entirely possible, indeed likely, that someone who (for example) has a Law degree and the skills to succeed in politics would also be able to do very well financially working as a solicitor or in business. While the national average annual wage is £25,800, the figure for Legal Professionals (for example) is much higher, at £47,411 – and that’s just an average.

You should take some time to think about these positive and negative aspects of life as a politician and about how they apply specifically to you. We all have different personalities, so for some people the positives will be magnified and the negatives neutralised. For others, the reverse will be the case. Be honest about the sort of person you are, and you’ll be able to determine whether a life in politics is the right option for you.

Getting Better Cuts From Your Saw Blade

There are several things that you can do to ensure you get the best cuts and longest life out of your saw blade. Just follow these tips to achieve chip-free cuts in Particleboard or MDF on a Panel Saw or Sliding Table Saw.

Using the right saw blade and proper alignment:

* Make sure to always use the right blade for the material you are cutting. Different types of matereial may require you to use a different style of wood. (Tip: Use a triple chip grind blade with 80 teeth for particleboard or MDF.)

* Use a properly tuned saw, and make sure your fence and miter slots are aligned parallel to the blade. Having blades perfectly parallel to the fence helps avoid back cutting whether you are using a single blade or a two blade system. Keep your saw blade teeth raised so that half the carbide is showing over the stock.

* Always run the proper blade configuration with the correct amount of teeth, TCG grind, and the correct prescore. If the prescore is not used, be sure to use a high ATB blade.

* Select a precision saw blade with the appropriate tip configuration for the machine and material being used, tensioned to the motor rpm of the machine it is used on, and a micrograin carbide designed for longer life on composite materials. (cermet II is a longer life tip material that is both tougher and longer lasting than carbide)

* Maintain proper Blade Projection. The blade projection is the distance from the top of the material to the top of the blade when it is cutting. The blade projection can have a great effect on the surface finish. Keeping a blade projection between 20mm and 30mm should ensure a clean surface finish.

Maintaining Good Saw Blade Sharpening:

*ALWAYS CUT WITH A SHARP SAW BLADE. Cutting with a sharp saw blade will give cleaner, smoother cuts, and will help to extend the life of your saw blade. Trying to get a few more cuts out of your saw blade between sharpening to save a little money can result in dimishing the sharpening life of your saw blade, give bad cuts, and is potentially dangerous.

* When having your saw blade sharpened make sure that the sharpening shop is properly matching the prescore to the main blade.

Keep the Blade and operating equipment clean of dust and wood chips:

*Make sure the saw flanges are clean and burr-free.

*Keep the mounting surfaces clean. Any debris on the mounting surfaces can cause the bade to wobble, resulting in removing many of the teeth from the cut on the sides and increasing the kerf of the cut. Chips and dust in the cutting path on the material can also impact the horsepower consumption, feed rate, vibration, and heat build up which will have a negative effect on the tool life and the finish.

*Keep blades from binding in the cut


* Scoring can give very good cuts in many materials. If using thin material, stack cut using double face tape to secure the stock.

* Make sure the blade is well adjusted to the scoring blade.

Basic Guitar Soloing Techniques

Guitar soloing

There is no question that guitar soloing can be quite exciting. A major key to becoming proficient is to learn the proper techniques. A good way to start this process is with three important guitar soloing techniques. They are the bend, the hammer-on, and the pull-off.

The bend

The bending of strings is a basic guitar technique. It is used quite a bit in rock and blues, but also in other styles of music. The way to bend a string is to push it across the fretboard with your left hand fingers. Usually, two or three fingers will be used. This causes the string to get tighter, and the pitch to go higher. It is always a good idea to know what note you are bending to. You will need to practice this technique a lot. It is very important to hit the right pitch, or the sound could be very foul.

Here is a little string bending exercise. First, try playing the note you want to bend. Then, play the note you want to bend to. Now, play the first note again, and bend it to the pitch of the second one. This is a very good way to improve your listening skills, and string bending technique. It is also a good first step in your guitar soloing career.


With the hammer-on, you pluck only the first note, then hammer for the second note. After you play the original note, you do not re-pick the string. The note will be achieved automatically with the action of the hammer-on.

As an example, put your first finger on the third fret of the low E string. This is the thickest string. Pick the string, and hammer down with your third finger on the fifth fret. You should get 2 notes by plucking the string only once. Try practicing this technique on different strings, and frets. Make sure your fingertip is going down directly on the string. This is important for good sounding results.


This technique is pretty much the exact opposite of the hammer-on. On the string of your choice, try placing your third finger on the fifth fret, and your first finger on the third fret. With both fingers on the fretboard, pluck the string once, and lift off only the third finger. You should get two notes. First, a higher one, then a lower one.

Once you get the feel of a hammer-on and pull-off, try doing a combination. First, do a hammer-on, and then right after, do a pull-off. It does take practice to get these basic guitar soloing techniques to sound just right. Try different strings, and different frets. The more practice, the better. Remember, playing any instrument is not a destination. It is an ongoing journey. All musical knowledge and skill is cumulative.

Bathroom And Shower Room Wall Tiling Tips

Having a new bathroom tiled?

The following article is in response to all the people that are actually considering having new tiling for for the first time round and for those of you that want a decent job done.

Read on and you can spare yourself lots of anguish and desperation (and some money too).

It is now quite often when I go to price a tiling job that I have to advise people on some problem on carrying out the work. The typical hotspots are:

  • bath out of level
  • fitted showers
  • shower trays and baths with excessive gap between these and the walls
  • lipped shower trays not set in
  • shower unit/controls at the wrong height
  • radiators, towel rail, basin already fitted, toilet pan height and servicing
  • old tiles still in place after having a new suite installed

How can the above hotspots interfere with the tiling you may ask. Well, it goes like this:

“Bath out of level”

One of the first things that I do when starting a bathroom wall tile installation, is to put my long spirit level on and along the perimeter of the bath. What I found often is that the bath is badly out of level, sometimes dropping towards the plug hole and on fewer occasions dropping opposite to the plug hole. Of all of the baths I have seen to date I have not yet seen a bath that has not got a natural internal fall in order to drain the water, so I cannot see a valid reason for not having the top of the bath level. It must be said though, that occasionally, some baths are simply badly built. No much thought has been given for accommodating the tiles

If the tiles to be installed are a medium to large size and have no strong pattern, then is not a problem for the tiler. He/she would just need to trim the tiles accordingly to the fall but if the level is too much out you can have problem when installing a bath/shower screen onto the bath edge.

if on the other hand you are installing mosaic or tiles with lines or strong patterns, the tiling will look awful as even the smallest level difference along the bath length will be very noticeable. When dealing with mosaic, doing cuts means more time and money.

“Fitted shower”

I is important to have the tiles to go behind the unit as this can avoid water penetration in the wall/s. Some showers have the hot and cold pipes covered with a plate. On these type of shower units tiling must be done before the unit is fitted as the tile can be drilled neatly to accommodate the pipe work; if not, the tiles will need to be cut in a way that will have to show an unsightly finish. If the plumber is fitting a new shower unit ask him/her to allow for the pipe work to protrude from the wall more than it is needed, then to wait for the tiling to be done before final installation. I have had situations where the shower has been fitted, without even allowing for the tile thickness between the cover plates and the wall.

“Shower trays and baths with excessive gap”

When installing baths or trays make sure to have very little gap from them to the walls otherwise you might end up using either too much silicone or having to install a bath trim. I am not in favour of these bath/shower trims or tile beads as I have found the baths and trays can move downwards causing the trim to separate and capillary action allowing water to draw into the walls. If you find that the bath or tray is not fitting tight to the walls it is likely that it is due to the right angled wall not being square to the other or that the wall is bulging. It is standard practice to slightly bed in the bath/tray into the wall; just enough for the gap to close. This also helps “hold” the bath/tray in place. Many times you would only need to channel one wall only. This is when the internal corner of the wall is not square. Again, only set the tray into the wall until the gap closes. Care must be taken not to inset the bath too much as you might have problem with the taps distance to the wall, hence preventing clear access on opening and closing them. Also, pay attention to the shower tray as if you inset this too much, you might have problems later fitting the shower screen.

“Lipped shower trays not set in”

Lipped showers are those trays that have an upstand along 2 or more sides.

These trays are supposed to be containing the water within the tray and avoiding water leakage into the adjoining walls. In theory this is great but I have carried out a number of tiling repairs due to this type of tray. The reason why there has been some problem with this type of tray is because of poor plumbing installation. On a few occasions the tray was placed against the walls (not inset into the wall). On other occasions the fitter did not inset the tray enough into the walls. I have noticed that there usually is a considerable lateral movement once I step on the tray during tile installation. This causes the tray’s upright lip to move (from inside outwards) towards the tile and doing so, de-bonding the first row of tiles and in turn allowing water to penetrate in the wall, causing problems. The only way not to have any problem with this type of tray is to make sure that the tray is set in the wall more than the lateral movement allows. Care must be taken not to go too deep in the wall as the shower screen might not fit inside the tray.

“Shower unit/controls at the wrong height”

A common problem that can be avoided is the placing of the shower controls height onto the walls. As it is important for the user to have the controls at the right height one overlooked situation is the height of the tile border. If there is no border then it’s not a problem but if you are considering installing a tile border, then get the tiler to relay with the plumber as you don’t want to spoil the border being interrupted by the controls. If the border is thicker than the main tiles then you can have more problems with the control’s cover plates not seating flush, also if the border is thicker than the tiles the tiler will need to know where the shower/bath screen will be going exactly as that part of the border where the screen will cover must not be tiled or the screen won’t seat flush.

“Radiators, towel rail, basin already fitted, toilet pan height and servicing”

On situations where basin, towel rail radiators and toilet are fitted, this is where a lot of time will need to be spent as it (unless removed) will require to cut around these items (if possible). Here if planned in advance the tiling would need to be carried out BEFORE the final plumbing installation. Reality is that many plumbers want to get in and out as soon as possible not worrying about the tiling (after all, they are not doing it, are they!). If you are going to have the floor tiled then you MUST have the basin (pedestal), toilet pan and any surface mounted radiator OFF the floor and the plumbing already prepared for the new floor height. If the existing floor is made of wood, then there is a big chance that the floor will go up around 1″ – about 25 mm but can only be assessed during the estimate or quote.

“Old tiles still in place after having a new suite installed”

This is another thing overlooked.

You have planned your project for a long time, the workers get in to replace the old bathroom suite with the one you really wanted for a long time. They remove the first row of tiles abutting the old suite and install the new one. Job done.

It is beyond belief that some people can do this. “The tiler can take the tiles off”.

It must be appreciated that removing tiles after a new bathroom suite has been installed is no easy task and the risk of damage to it can be considerable. Also, at times, some sections of walls may need to be replaced or repaired according to the surface type and adhesive strength. Make sure that the tiles ARE removed prior to the new installation.

The same applies to kitchen installations.

© Tile Master © 2008

Asphalt Repair – Sealants

Repairing asphalt is not too complex but which method you choose to use will make a difference between a job that last years and a job that won’t last twelve months.

There are two different methods to fill in cracks that are common in asphalt that has not been properly sealed. A cold pour sealant will last a year or less while a hot pour sealant will have a greatly longer life span of three to seven years. Which method you choose to use will depend on a variety of factors including where you are pouring and your budget. A cold pour method works if you are on a tight budget and don’t have access to electricity in the area to be poured to do the pour. A hot pour will last longer, cost more and cure faster.

Which ever method you choose the benefits will be obvious. Sealing cracks will prevent further damage caused by water penetrating and destroying the structural integrity of the asphalt. It will also help to prevent weeds from growing in the cracks by creating a barrier and increases the life span of the asphalt itself.

Before you can do any pour- hot or cold you will need to do some prep work to get the area clean. To get rid of dirt and weeds the area can be swept with a broom or a sweeper or pressure washed. You may have to use a wire brush to get any rock chunks out of the more stubborn cracks to make sure your sealant can properly do its job.

Fill cracks level to the surface with your sealant. For pot holes you will have to use a trowel to spread the sealant level to the surface and fill in the hole. If you have a pot hole that is particularly deep fill the hole with gravel four inches from the top and then add the sealant to this newly created level to help give the sealant a base to sit on.

Remember sealants have to cure 24 hours before any traffic goes on them so block off the area to protect it. If the asphalt is a parking lot or other large area you can use that down time to repaint parking lot lines.

After the cold or hot pour has cured you should put a sealant coat over it all to avoid future damage. A sealant can be applied anywhere from two to five days after the repair job for best results.

Evolution of Lacquer Boxes

Lacquer boxes made their debut in the late 18th century days and have now become one of the most popular art works all over the world. The reason behind the success of making Lacquer boxes as an art was only due to the introduction of affordable tobacco in the midst of 18th century. The earliest Russian lacquer workshops, such as those of Korobov, Lukutin and Vishnyakov produced a variety of utilitarian items including snuffboxes, panels, powder cases, tea-caddies and desk accessories. It is believed that authentic Lacquer box makers would be one who is trained from anyone of the following four official schools called Mstera, Kholui, Palekh and Fedoskino. Today, the lacquer artists may work for the official workshop or work independently. Boxes and other objects are made of cardboard sheets, pressed and formed, then boiled in linseed oil. This papier-mache is then baked in an oven. At this point the material can be worked like wood. Trained joiners assemble the boxes, applying hinges and two coats of primer-paint. The blank is then oven dried and given to the artist to begin the painting. Extremely fine brushes are used to achieve the fine lines and details in each painting. Usually artists prefer painting with their brushes and mixing the pigments in their own compositions.

The procedure for getting admission starts with the application followed by training for a period of four years after which apprenticeship begins. Upon the successful completion and receiving good grades with considerably good quality control, their works will be exported. Hence a reputable factory seal or a flashy certificate is not the only documents that symbolize the authenticity of fine Lacquer box artists and their excellence. There are four categories of painting to be considered: one-of-a-kind compositions, limited editions by a single artist, “factory” compositions which can be used by all artists and reproductions from original works on canvas however the quality varies depending upon the categories.

Lacquer boxes are small fine works of art which are completely handcrafted and hand painted making each and every piece inspired and unique. A fine Lacquer box maker may even take several months to complete the making process. The Lacquer box making techniques do not involve newer concepts rather they are in practice before 150 years itself.

The art of Russian lacquer box miniature painting is gaining a lot of appreciation recently and has become one of the favorite pieces of collectible lovers. Unfortunately this has lead to the mixing up of inferior quality boxes in market made by less trained people. These fakes name themselves to be one of the authentic box makers from any of the four villages thus making the buyers fools. This can be overcome by educating yourself about the art and buying from reputable dealers.

Epic Survival! Fitness for Emergencies

You’ve seen it in the movies a thousand times: the hero dangles from a rope with one hand while holding the helpless damsel with the other; the hero sprints away from a building just before it explodes; a group of people outrun an oncoming wave as they scramble up a hill to safety; and so on and so forth.

Chances are, you’re never going to face any of these situations (but you might). Even so, most people are pathetically unprepared to save their own lives, much less anyone else’s should the opportunity arise. Even in this modern age of emergency medical procedures, quick-response crisis teams, and instant communication, at some point, you may need to save your own ass.

Imagine if your survival depended on something more mundane than a dramatic movie situation: What if you had to jump over a fence to get away from danger? Or pull yourself onto a roof? Or use a burst of energy to get out of a hazardous situation? These are much more likely situations that could get you killed if you failed to live up to the task (and many people can’t).

Some people can’t even help themselves during non-emergency situations; people whose lack of mobility prevents them from getting off a floor or even a chair. I’m not talking about the handicapped; I’m talking about perfectly (or potentially) healthy individuals who have fallen to the point of non-survival (if the situation ever arose).

But it isn’t just the super-incapable that are in danger of dying in dangerous situations; it’s also millions of people who consider themselves “fit” because they exercise on a regular basis, look pretty and strong, or train using popular TV promos with crazy gimmicks like “reverse interval training.” These pseudo-fit individuals, while more likely to survive, are still woefully inadequate compared to what they could be capable of with a type of training that goes beyond “Functional Fitness.” In order to survive in an epic situation, you need the Doomsday Juggernaut Standard.

Less “Kicking Ass” & More “Saving Ass” (Your Own!)

For the sake of this article (and the rapidly approaching 2012 Doomsday), the following training guidelines are based on a worst case scenario. Imagine multiple disasters occurring at once (earthquake, fire, terrorist attack, volcano, alien invasion, whatever floats your boat weirdo), and you must save yourself and your significant other because all forms of rescue have been overwhelmed. You don’t just face a situation, you face a prolonged, horrific ordeal that you can only survive if you have the strength to endure…. Let’s get to it!

Strength Training

In order to survive, you’ll need a minimum level of strength to perform both short-term tasks (like lifting items off yourself and others) and long-term tasks (like carrying someone over rough terrain). Unlike the isolated movements that weight training machines in a gym can provide, these survival strength requirements involve dynamic movements that incorporate multiple muscle groups and full-body movements. For that reason, performing ballistic exercises with unbalanced weights like kettlebells and sandbags can provide more useful strength in a real-world, emergency situation. This workout will aid in your all-around muscle endurance, grip strength, and your all-around general badassedness.

A: Pull Ups with 5 Second hold – 4 x 10 reps

B: Double Kettlebell Jerks – 4 x 15-20

C: Sandbag Zercher Squat – 2 x 50

D: Sandbag Shoulder Get Up – 1 x 10 per side

E: Snatch – 1 x 100 Switch hands every 5 reps. Try to finish in under 5 minutes.

Stamina/Endurance Training

It’s possible that an emergency situation will require long bouts of physical exertion that will push you to your limits. Unfortunately, “gassing out” when your life (or someone else) is on the line will cause you more harm than just a disappointing workout in the gym or ring would. In addition, the long-lasting activity may require more than just running for a long time, it could involve carrying a load (like a person or supplies). For that reason, it’s a good idea to incorporate strength training into your conditioning. Using light kettlebells or sandbags, battle ropes, and sledgehammer exercises can help you achieve the right mix of weight training and conditioning, while also providing you with full-body, functional movements that will translate into usable survival stamina.

With this rope and sledgehammer workout there’s no need for long distances or hill sprints. This hellacious workout will have your lungs screaming for mercy during the first set. Complete each circuit as quickly as possible.

A1: Rope Double Slams – 30 sec

A2: Sledgehammer Slams (Left) – 20

A3: Sledgehammer Slams (Right) – 20

A4: Alternating Waves – 30 sec

A5: Alternating Sledgehammer Slams – 50

A6: Jumping Double Slams – 30 sec

Rest 2 minutes between sets. Complete the circuit 3-4 times.

Agility Training

How often do you practice falling down? Never? That’s not good! A big earthquake could toss you around like a rag doll, an explosion could throw you to the ground, and falling from a height of two inches could break your ankles! In a survival situation, a sprained ankle could be the difference between life and death. Proper agility and mobility are essential to preventing injury, especially when you are thrown into unusual positions.

Just like fighters say, you need to practice putting your body into odd positions, because sooner or later, someone or something will do it for you. Proper joint mobility will allow you to prevent injury and enhance your strength and conditioning. Equipment like Indian Clubs, Heavy Clubs, and Macebells can help you enhance back, shoulder, elbow, and wrist mobility. Each tool involves fluid, swinging movements that incorporate multiple muscle groups to lubricate the joints. In addition, dynamic joint mobility exercises (like those encouraged and practiced by Steve Maxwell) can keep you moving properly throughout a lifetime.

A: Macebell 10-to-2 – 4 x 10 each direction

B: Somersault Practice – 2 x 10 each shoulder (Roll over each shoulder across a field or on a mat)

C: Split Squat Jump – 1 x 20

D: Side Lunge – 3 x 15 each leg

E: Handstand to Front Roll – 3 x 10 (Tuck head and curl into a ball vs landing straight on your back. Practice on grass or a soft mat.)

Mental Fortitude

People who don’t exercise think a good workout is breaking a sweat and breathing hard. Those with a little more experience will know a good workout when they reach a tough spot in their exercise, but push through to the end and finish the set. A far fewer number of people know what it’s really like to fight through the pain, agony, and sheer torment of a sustained physical effort, and succeed.

These people are professional athletes, soldiers, fire fighters, and other full-time badasses, and their abilities are related to their mental fortitude as much as their physical prowess. There are a variety of mental stresses involved in an emergency situation, how an individual handles that stress is related to the Executive Skill of Stress Tolerance (a cognitive function that is hardwired into each individual and determines their reaction to highly stressful ordeals).

How does a civilian practice these skills? Don’t give up! When you set your training up and you push to your breaking point and then keep going, you just won a mini-battle. Keep fighting the good fight and you have yourself the mental toughness the likes of which most weekend warriors and typical gym rats just don’t have. It takes work. Hard, terrible work, but in the end you will walk away from the predicament at hand you’ll be glad you toughed out those tough sessions.

The Doomsday Juggernaut Standard

Alright, now you know that you’re gonna need certain levels of strength, endurance, agility, and mental fortitude in order to survive a hostile situation. You’re training hard, but how do you know if you’re training hard enough? How do you know if you’re ready?

Don’t fret! We’ve created a list of performance requirements that we call the Doomsday Juggernaut Standard. You meet these, and you’ll be ready for almost anything! The requirements were taken from a variety of organizations, including the US Marines, US Special Forces, Navy SEALs, Russian military, US Secret Service, the Macebell Mauler Certification, California Wildland Forest Service, and a dash of grip testing.

Push Ups – 100 in 2 minutes

Pulls Ups – 20 without stopping

¼ mile Sprint – Under 90 seconds

1.5 mile Run – Under 10 minutes

500 yard Swim – Under 10 minutes

Snatch Test – 200 reps with 24kg in 10 min

Bar Hang – 2 minutes

Macebell 10-to-2 – 100 reps non-stop using a 10kg in under 5 minutes

3-Mile Hike – Under 45 minutes carrying 24kg

Ironmind #2 – Close with each hand

You might be thinking, “What about mental fortitude?” You try just one of these tests and you’ll understand how the list will test that. But just to make sure, this list also requires that you complete ALL OF THE TESTS WITHIN 24 HOURS.

So bust it out and get ready to survive! Let us know how it goes by emailing your questions and results to

Most Common Roof Problems

Roof Repair and replacement can be expensive. When it comes to the integrity of your roof, many people fail to properly maintain their roof and regularly check for damage. Early detection of roof problems can save you money and time in costly repairs.

For the average homeowner, the roof is not a structure they think about until it is causing problems. Many people simply don’t know what to look for or how to tell if their roof needs attention or repair. There are a few things every homeowner should know about roofs and how to detect if there is a problem.

Leaks and Water Damage

Water is the biggest culprit of roof damage. If the roof shingles or tiles are damaged or cracked, water can seep underneath to the base materials. When water gets into the base materials, the resulting damage can happen overnight. Even one rainstorm can cause enough water damage to create problems such as mold, mildew, bowing of the wood and even roof collapse.

To ensure your roof is protected against leaks and water damage make sure that the roof materials (such as tiles, shingles or shakes) are all intact and of good quality. Replace any broken or missing materials as soon as possible. The metal flashing is also important in keeping out water and moisture, as it bridges the gap between the roof and structures, such as the chimney. Flashing can bend and flex over time, creating problems with the seal and leaving the roof vulnerable to moisture. Use a rubber-based caulk to adhere the flashing to the roof materials and the structure they support.

Tenting and Cracking

Some of the roof materials may begin to tent or bow over time, leaving the materials underneath exposed to wind and water. If the shingles or flashing are not properly laid, or they become weak over time, they risk exposing the rest of the roof to the elements. Wind can easily blow tented shingles off of the roof, leaving the base materials without cover. Shingles and flashing can crack as they age, leaving small gaps in the roof. The problem with cracked shingles or flashing it can be hard to identify visually and requires up close inspection to detect.

This can be especially problematic in hot climates where cheaper roof materials begin to warp after a few years in the hot sun. Asphalt shingles are the most vulnerable as they can bend in the heat and are light enough to get carried off in the wind. Other roof materials such as clay tiles or slate tiles are more resistant to the heat and wind, which is why they are the primary roof material used in hotter climates.


Roofs can accumulate debris because of their shapes. Typically, the valleys between roof angles are the easiest places for debris to gather. Pine needles, tree leaves, branches and trash are some of the more common types of debris found along roof tops. Pine needles are especially problematic as they have a lot of sap that can leak onto the shingles, creating a sticky mess. If the needles are left on the roof too long, they can seep color causing the roof to become stained. Leaves and branches can bring insects and scratches to the roof materials.

It is important to routinely inspect your roof for any signs of damage or problems. Simple roof repairs such as replacing flashing or a few shingles can be done easily. If you are unsure how to repair your roof, call a roof contractor. Having a small repair completed early can save you hundreds down the road in roof replacement costs.

How To Choose Your Flooring Materials: A Comparative Analysis

On the context of home design, we see an increasing trend of people wanting to optimize the design of their house flooring vis-à-vis the durability and resistance of their floors to various harsh agents. Although there are general advantages and disadvantages when it comes to different flooring materials, each material should still be judged based on several case-to-case bases such as: location of your house, general climate of your location, appliances and other materials in your house, and even your taste and preferences. The purpose then of this article is to provide a walkthrough to the readers on the nature of different flooring materials in order to help them decide better on which flooring material to use. So let’s get started and let’s have a comparative analysis on these materials as we go along.

Go Green With Wood Flooring Material

The green movement has gone a long way through our society and they have penetrated even the corners of home decoration and style. Wood floorings made up of little natural wood and other synthetic materials; engineered together in order to save a lot of trees from being cut down has been a popular choice among environmentalists and other people alike. This is due to the natural color and look that wood flooring materials give into one’s house. The natural color of wood gives every room a warm and comfortable feel. Also, it makes the rooms look bigger. Wood materials and tiles are relatively easy to install and maintain. A simple mop can already restore the natural color of your floor.

However, wood flooring materials are often vulnerable to color aberration. Through time, their color might fade and they might get destroyed by insects. You also need to control the humidity of the room because too much moisture will make the tiles degrade slowly. Heavy appliances and objects are also not recommended as it can deform the wood tiles.

Recommendation: Wood flooring materials are good materials for tropical locations where rainfall is minimal; no snowy climate is present and other cold weather systems. This material is highly discouraged on areas that are always flooded. If you install wood tiles on your house, placing heavy objects is highly discouraged as it can deform the tiles.

Professional And Minimalist Look With Tile And Stone Materials

Tiles and stone materials on the other hand provide a minimalist and professional design in a room. These are replaceable materials and that there are wide choices of designs and colors available in the market. They can also withstand pressure that come from heavy impacts or objects and they are also resistant to water. These materials are also easy to clean and maintain.

The only problem with tile and stone materials is that they are very hard to install. Also, on cold weather or in air-conditioned rooms, they might feel cold and even cooler to the foot.

Recommendation: This is highly recommended but not limited to corporate offices. The minimalist look that it gives to a room provides a very professional aura to the whole place. It is easy to clean, hence it is highly recommended in offices where every moment is a rush hour. The cold sensation that it gives to the foot can also be eliminated in offices where obviously, everybody wears a shoes.

Choose Carpets For An Elegant Look

Carpets on the other hand are highly elegant flooring materials. They can match to every building structure, design and purpose. They are even best for CEO rooms and other elite-class mansions. They can be laid on almost any establishment and the carpet itself is a very beautiful room decoration.

The only problem with carpets is that they are extremely hard to maintain. The dust that accumulates to these materials can cause allergies and other sicknesses to everyone. They also smell bad if they are not cleaned for a very long time. Cleaning and maintenance fees are relatively more expensive compared to other flooring materials.

Recommendation: Carpets are really nice flooring materials. They can fit in all establishments. However, only put carpets in your house, room or office if you are sure that you can maintain it thoroughly and regularly. CEO offices are the best places where one can put carpets.

Affordable Plastic Flooring For Commercial Establishments

For other commercial establishments that run small scale businesses, plastic tiles are highly recommended. They are cheap, affordable, and they come in many colors and designs. They are also very easy to maintain.

The most problematic part of having plastic flooring is that they are not fashionable. They also get damaged easily. Their colors fade after a year or so and dust can accumulate in between the tiles.

Recommendation: Don’t use plastic flooring until and unless you are targeting a low-cost for your flooring. This is highly recommended for commercial establishments that sell RTW, school supplies and other small scale products. Do not install these materials, as much as possible in your house, office or room.

How to Spray Paint Stencils

So, you want to spray paint stencils! Spray paints leave a clean, smooth finish that is free of paint brush lines and the splotches that sponges might create. But, as easy as it is to spray paint from a can, it’s not so easy to get good results. So, there are a number of tricks you need to know about.

The challenge with spray paint stencils is getting crisp edges and clean lines. Most commonly the end result is a fuzzy image. That is just the nature of spray paint. If your project is going to be OK with fuzzy edges then you’re in business. In fact, if that is what you are trying to achieve, then you should know that the further you hold a stencil from the surface the fuzzier it gets.

However, if you still want to spray paint stencils and need crisp edges then read on for all the tricks you’ll need to know.

To get clean lines, you need to make sure that the stencil is as close to the surface as possible. If any part of the stencil is lifted it can allow paint to spray under (which is called “overspray”).

One way to make sure that your stencil is in good contact with the surface is for the stencil to have an adhesive backing. There are a couple of ways to do that. You can copy your stencil onto a piece of full page label paper and cut it out. Or you can coat the back of the stencil with spray adhesive or a glue stick.

I need to tell you that if you use a sticky back stencil you may have a problem with the background paint or finish being lifted off with the stencil when you are finished painting. Make sure to read all instructions on any products you use and test before doing your project.

If you have decided to use spray glue, place your stencil face down on a piece of newspaper and spray the back side that will be placed on your surface. I know this sounds silly because of course you are going to spray the back side, right? But how many times are we doing something with our minds somewhere else and before we know it… Well, anyway, I just wanted to remind you. Also, make sure to spray with newspaper underneath. Spray glue is like spray paint – it goes everywhere!

Let’s say you want to work with a glue stick. It’s best to tap the glue around the islands and bridges. If you drag the glue stick you will likely get globs of glue around the edges of the islands (openings). In order to get crisp edges on your painting the islands have to be clear of glue.

Follow along with me as I spray paint a fleur de lis stencil design on a stool.

Here are some of the things that you’ll need.

Of course, you’ll need paint. I’m not going to recommend any brands because what works for me may not be what works for you. All I can say is to experiment with different ones until you find a brand you can stick with.

Some of the qualities you want to look for in a spray paint are truthfulness of color and a consistency that is not too thin. It just needs to spray on a nice color. Experiment with a few brands until you find the one you like.

You also want to find a brand that can offer some reliability of the nozzle. There is nothing worse than having a nozzle that clogs and sputters out large blobs of paint.

I’ve found that just because one brand of paint is more expensive does not necessarily mean it is the better choice. A can of discount brand paint may not go as far as a more expensive brand. So, you need to buy more of the discount brand paint. However, you may still come out ahead in the long run. You be the judge.

Also, I have had some paints create a crackling effect when sprayed. The best way to keep this from happening is to apply a thin layer of spray paint and let it dry thoroughly before another coat. It’s better to apply many thin coats of paint than to try and finish it quickly with one or two thick globs of paint. Spraying a thick coat of paint can cause a number of problems besides cracking paint (like running, pooling, dripping…).

And you’ll need stencils – hence the spray paint stencils part! The variety of stencils available to you is mind numbing. So, it’s next to impossible for me to recommend any one kind of stencil because I don’t know anything about your project. My best advice is to experiment and test different stencils and materials.

I would like to share with you a comparison of stencils made from thick and thin materials.

When using a stencil made of thick materials (like plastic) you need to spray at a perfect 90 degree angle especially around the edges. If you spray from a side angle, the edge closest to the sprayer will be fuzzy because the spray of paint is blocked by the thickness of the stencil. On the other hand, a thick stencil which is durable and heavy will cover your surface better and prevent overspray.

A stencil made from a thin material (like paper) doesn’t have an edge thick enough to block the paint as it is sprayed. So the edges should be crisp even if you are not holding the can at an exact 90 degree angle from the surface. However, a thin material (like paper) might be flimsy allowing paint to get under the edges if it curls or gets blown by the spray. If you are using paper, you may want to consider an adhesive backing option as described above to keep this from happening.

You will need an object to paint. It can be anything you want – a t-shirt, furniture, floor, rug, cardboard…whatever! Just make sure that the surface to be stenciled is prepared properly. If it has a previous layer of paint, make sure it is dry. Paints do not stick well to semi-gloss or gloss paints. So, if you are painting the entire surface of the item before you stencil, use a flat paint. If it has already been painted, you may need to sand it down to rough the finish. If you are stenciling a t-shirt or other fabrics, make sure they are washed so that any surface treatment which may discourage paint from sticking has been removed.

I do not advocate illegal graffiti so if you plan to use spray paint stencils on a train or a building, make sure you own it!

I am going to recommend safety gear like a face mask or respirator, eye protection and rubber gloves. You need to be aware that spray paint is very toxic and you don’t want to breathe it in especially over long periods of time. If you are spray painting inside, get a good respirator. Remember it’s always good to be safe than sorry!

You will also want to have some old newspaper to cover the areas around the stencil from overspray. Spray paint has a way of going everywhere. It gets carried in the wind and lands on any exposed surface. So it’s important to cover anything you don’t want to have a painted haze.

You will need some masking tape to secure the stencil and any newspaper that you use.

You will need a good place to apply the spray paint. Hopefully you have a room with good ventilation. However, you don’t want to be in an area where there is a breeze and dust is blowing around.

Well, on to the spray painting of the stencil. First, you want to secure your stencil to the object to be painted and cover all exposed areas outside of the stencil with newspaper. If you don’t use an adhesive on the back of the stencil as described above, then tape down all the outside edges so that your stencil will not move during the entire process of painting.

For the fleur de lis stencil, I tapped a glue stick on the back side of the stencil over the thin bridges and around the edges of the fleur de lis. This made the stencil adhere better to the surface and helped in preventing overspray. When the stencil is in place on your surface to be painted, run a finger firmly around all of the island edges.

When spraying paint, hold the can 8 to 10 inches from the stencil. Use a gentle waving motion, spraying paint in horizontal lines from side to side. Release the nozzle at the end of each row and move down far enough so that when you start to paint your next line in the other direction, you are starting a new line and not repainting over the last line. You are looking for a slow and gradual build up of color with even coverage. Allow the paint to dry thoroughly after each thin layer. Be careful not to let the paint build up too fast because it will run, drip, create ripples like in a pool or start a crackle effect as it dries. Remember, it is going to take several layers of paint with a time period for thorough drying in between. No rushing!

Don’t try to paint the outline of the stencil. Just stick to the back and forth motion described above. Forget that you are working with a spray paint stencil and just sweep across the entire stencil as though you are painting the whole area. Again, this is going to help you build up a gradual and even layer of color.

Make sure to hold the can upright at all times and spray toward your surface at a 90-degree angle. Holding the can upright keeps the flow of paint consistent.

Let the paint dry thoroughly before lifting the stencil. Removing a wet stencil can cause smudging. Try to pull the stencil straight up or hold down at one end and roll it up carefully from the other end. The idea is to avoid dragging the stencil over a wet surface.

And Voila! It’s finished. How was that for your first spray paint stencil project? As you can tell using spray paints adds a few challenges but there are some benefits too. As you experiment with stencils using spray paints or brushes or sponges you will find out what method works best for you. So, always try new things and have fun stenciling!

Custom Built Marine Cranes and Fassi Cranes

Marine cranes are very useful for moving heavy loads on and off the deck. Usually, they are designed to handle loads of 10 to 15 tones. However, the larger ones can handle weights much heavier than this. The larger ones typically handle weights of up to 40 tonnes. They are very important because they help to offload and load heavy cargo much faster. When a lot of cargo needs to be offloaded quickly, a rig with multiple cranes is used to move the cargo. The rig is installed at the centre of the boat and several hoists may be placed on a platform that allows for a 3600 movement. The 3600 mechanism allows it to move towards the load by moving the shortest distance. This helps to reduce accidents and makes work easier.

Marine cranes are built to cater for different needs as well as to work in different environments. There are those that are built for saltwater and others for fresh water. There is a special design for those made for salty water, they are made with materials that are rust resistant to prevent corrosion and make it more durable.

Fassi cranes

The UK Fassi are designed to last longer and do not require a lot of maintenance. The inventors were trying to make it more robust, strong and make something that works faster. It is therefore specially designed to ensure it can handle more workload, while still being safe and efficient. Many of them are common with clients who are trying to find a custom built one that will be a better fit for these needs. Their customers range from those who need them for light loads to those seeking one that can meet their heavy duty needs such as handling loads in the railway industry. Fassi is known for having taken steps to curb the sale of fake spare parts. They have ensured their distributors are linked directly to them so that they provide only genuine parts to their customers. Their spares available in the market are genuine and of high quality and the customer is assured of durability and reliability.

High Level of Reputation

One of the things that has made this brand famous is because they are known for serving clients of high repute. Fassi has supplied the military with some of its cranes. NATO uses some of them for various military applications such as loading military on and off their trucks. Marine cranes provide safety for loading and offloading cargo from and onto a boat. It is fitted with a special base that is designed with the highest level of engineering to work on any boat. This is a much safer way to load than improvising even if you are handling lighter loads.

Creating the Right Lawn Edging and Borders for the Garden

Even though it isn’t a necessity to include an edge or border for the lawn, it certain helps to include some sort of separation between the driveway, walkways, fences, and flower beds to create a more attractive finish. In the process of researching the different types of edging you will likely discover a range of choices, from a simple   trench  to attractive stones. Below are some of the best choices for creating the edging to match the garden landscape design –

 Trench  edging

A simple approach to include the defining border is to include the  trench  edging.  Trench  edging is the process of digging a  trench  at four to six inches in-depth to define the edge between the flower bed and lawn. A  trench  is often in the region of about six inches and will require cutting several times per year to maintain its effectiveness. A well-defined edging is also effective for stopping weeds crossing from a lawn area to the cultivate plant area. A great area for using this type of edging is along the fence line to make sure the grass isn’t right up close to the wooden fencing, which should make it easier when using the garden trimmer or similar such tools. A  trench  filled with a material like gravel helps with improving the drainage and limits the possibility of water pools building.

Stone edging

A highly attractive and effective option for creating a solid defining area includes using the stone borders. A well laid stone edging is certain to help with increasing the look of the landscaped lawn area, driveways, walkways, and patio areas. A variety of stones are perfect for this type of application. Some of the high-quality choices include natural stone pavers, sett stone, and fieldstone. Stones like the pavers and setts can be cut to a specific shape to match the layout and design of the garden.

Metal or plastic edging

A metal or plastic edging offers similar qualities to the alternatives mentioned, but are more likely to be less obtrusive. Each of the plastic or metal edging comes in thin strips at a height of four to six inches which is easily buried and helps with creating a highly effective channel around a flower bed or pathway. Due to the simplicity in using this type of edging it is often recommended for use alongside the hard-paved areas like the paths and driveways.


If searching for a more cost-effective option to using the brick or stone borders, it might help to consider using concrete to define a more permanent edge around the lawn area. Concrete is perfect to include in a  trench  using the pre-formed curbing or laying the wet concrete yourself. Providing the concrete is set at a level equal to the lawn it is possible to mow directly over the top without causing any damage to the mowing equipment.

Single Mom Firestorm Chat

Single mothers listen up. Here is the same advice my daughter gets, who is a single mother. You become like the people you hang around. If they are at your same socioeconomic level you will never become an accomplished single parent unless you break the cycle. If you want to be a homeowner, hang out with homeowners. If you want to make $100,000 a year get around those people. Dump the friends that are going nowhere fast. This the first rule. You will face alienation and ridicule from the same friends that helped to influence the same behavior that got you in trouble. Break the ties for your children’s’ sake!

School grants for single mothers are available. Stop being the victim and be the victor. We all make mistakes, but as a single mother, you can change. It takes work and time so be patient but persistent. Find the grant money you need and determine to make the best of it. The internet is a storehouse of information, tools, and opportunity. Ditch the cell phones, pagers, and text messaging. Buy yourself a computer, get online, and make your life happen. There is simply no excuse for crying the blues day in and day out.

Change comes to those who are willing to do what it takes. An excuse is just another word for lazy. Apply for as many grants and scholarships as you can. There is someone out there to give a want to be single mom achiever a second chance.

Scholarships for single moms are available to those who have the drive and are willing to correct their past mistakes. Before you became a single mom, you probably had all kinds of opportunities to go to school. You were eligible for grants, loans, and scholarships based on your academic achievement. Ask your parents what you were good at if you can’t remember. And if they can’t give you answer or you don’t have that dream anymore, get a new one. Then realign your priorities. Life is a game but you must be prepared to win. Winning involves taking personal responsibility for every aspect of your life.

Financial support and assistance for single moms is designed to give you a new start. I see so many young single mothers using this resource as a reason to do nothing. You can’t stay up all night, hang out with friends all day, eat lousy food, drink more than you need or heaven forbid use drugs to pass the time away.

A young single mother is an adult with responsibilities. If your environment is not causing you to stretch and grow then you’re wasting your life. Get help from a mentor who is where you want to be. Ask a successful person for advice, they will show you exactly what you need to do. Ask someone who is not where you want to be and they’ll offer an opinion. When you get the assistance, you need for school or housing or taking care of life’s expenses treat it like you earned it and more will follow.

You don’t have time to seek dating as single parent. Your time is too valuable. The person that sees you as an achiever is also an achiever. The dating will come in time. But for now focus on securing your housing, getting the assistance you need, developing your single parenting skills, becoming a successful young single mother and caring for your child. The eligible bachelors will beat the door down to get to know a woman that kind of potential.

A young single mother and the “right” friends will cheer you on, help you keep striving to finish her education, and won’t belittle your situation. If this describes your friends, you are on the right path. If not, change your situation and you change your life.

Now go review the resources we’ve put together especially for you. There is no reason on this planet that you cannot be the person you want and need to be.