Single mothers listen up. Here is the same advice my daughter gets, who is a single mother. You become like the people you hang around. If they are at your same socioeconomic level you will never become an accomplished single parent unless you break the cycle. If you want to be a homeowner, hang out with homeowners. If you want to make $100,000 a year get around those people. Dump the friends that are going nowhere fast. This the first rule. You will face alienation and ridicule from the same friends that helped to influence the same behavior that got you in trouble. Break the ties for your children’s’ sake!
School grants for single mothers are available. Stop being the victim and be the victor. We all make mistakes, but as a single mother, you can change. It takes work and time so be patient but persistent. Find the grant money you need and determine to make the best of it. The internet is a storehouse of information, tools, and opportunity. Ditch the cell phones, pagers, and text messaging. Buy yourself a computer, get online, and make your life happen. There is simply no excuse for crying the blues day in and day out.
Change comes to those who are willing to do what it takes. An excuse is just another word for lazy. Apply for as many grants and scholarships as you can. There is someone out there to give a want to be single mom achiever a second chance.
Scholarships for single moms are available to those who have the drive and are willing to correct their past mistakes. Before you became a single mom, you probably had all kinds of opportunities to go to school. You were eligible for grants, loans, and scholarships based on your academic achievement. Ask your parents what you were good at if you can’t remember. And if they can’t give you answer or you don’t have that dream anymore, get a new one. Then realign your priorities. Life is a game but you must be prepared to win. Winning involves taking personal responsibility for every aspect of your life.
Financial support and assistance for single moms is designed to give you a new start. I see so many young single mothers using this resource as a reason to do nothing. You can’t stay up all night, hang out with friends all day, eat lousy food, drink more than you need or heaven forbid use drugs to pass the time away.
A young single mother is an adult with responsibilities. If your environment is not causing you to stretch and grow then you’re wasting your life. Get help from a mentor who is where you want to be. Ask a successful person for advice, they will show you exactly what you need to do. Ask someone who is not where you want to be and they’ll offer an opinion. When you get the assistance, you need for school or housing or taking care of life’s expenses treat it like you earned it and more will follow.
You don’t have time to seek dating as single parent. Your time is too valuable. The person that sees you as an achiever is also an achiever. The dating will come in time. But for now focus on securing your housing, getting the assistance you need, developing your single parenting skills, becoming a successful young single mother and caring for your child. The eligible bachelors will beat the door down to get to know a woman that kind of potential.
A young single mother and the “right” friends will cheer you on, help you keep striving to finish her education, and won’t belittle your situation. If this describes your friends, you are on the right path. If not, change your situation and you change your life.
Now go review the resources we’ve put together especially for you. There is no reason on this planet that you cannot be the person you want and need to be.