Communicate Effectively And You Will Respect Yourself And Your Mate

It's As Easy As One Two-Three:

To get the most positive effect in communication with our partner, we should try a more interactive approach. You will see that it will more than strengthen your relationship. Straight-away let me say that when we build up our listening skills, we notice a new spark in our partners and our listening abilities. When they speak to you, look them straight in their left eye. In this way, it will be to them, less domineering on your part, and a much smoother and a softer connection from them to you. When you are speaking to them, it is suggested that you look straight into their right eye they will be more inclined to do what you suggest, and will more readily accept what you are saying. This will capture the eye-to-eye affect and you will have their full attention, and they will be more inclined to listen to you, because this gaze will say that: "I'm serious and I want to too hear me". You do not have to arch your brow or make a stern face to get their attention or for them to actually hear what you're saying with this perfectly placed eye contact. It's just another form of communication.

Do You Know This Person?

Now people, we need to stop choosing a mate that we feel needs saving, in some way. Has it ever occurred to you why we choose needy people or someone who we feel is broken and, we feel, needs to be fixed in some way? Why do we always choose to be the "Florence Nightingale" in our mate's life? You do not even considering the amount of mental and emotional work you've got to put into helping this person to feel useful and happy in their own skin, if this is, indeed their true story. Sometimes, it's just a game that our bleeding heart just does not take the time to see, before we give them our all. As soon as we begin to hear that "somebody done me wrong song", we should immediately think "what's in it for me?"

Think of it for a moment, do you fall for someone that you feel is so misunderstood and that you are convinced, if in a relationship with you, this person will definitely see how a life with you can be the best thing since sliced ​​bread. And, that you will make them feel so strong and needed that they will be spoiled for anyone else besides you? Oh yeah wait, and that you will show them how it feels to have someone who is in their corner and will stand by them, no matter what? Yeah, right, you're not the only one who fell for that one. It is a hard habit to break, and an emotionally, deadly one to keep. We need to reprogram ourselves to cut this method completely out of the partner finding equation.

It appears that when we choose partners this way, we seem to fall for them in all of one to three months tops of just meeting them. Bad business people! Now we can not charge them for how we feel, they did not have to do or say much before we decided to become their savior. If we had just waited a bit longer, we would have seen, clearly, the game that this person was playing. The waiting game! They are just testing the waters to see just how quickly they can get us to show our vulnerability, how easily are we fooled, our naivety etc.? This is done in order to get a feel of your level of weakness. They are wondering just what can they get from you, in, a short amount of time that they could not get from other women, or are you just as strong.

It's Time For That Feel Good Moment:

Effective communication will put the "ole kibosh" on such antics. Try just going with the flow at bit longer, listen to the stories they tell a bit more intentionally, and watch where it quickly goes from there. I'm sure you get the point. When we allow ourselves to continue to go down this road, we must ask ourselves, "do I continue to put myself last, because I feel unworthy of having the kind of relationship I deserve?" or do you reject putting yourself first, for fear that someone else will reject you first? Is this why we continue to choose or select the lower base mates for ourselves? No fears people, it's all self programming and we can reprogram ourselves to get the best of the best that's out there, if we just take our time. We go out, we have fun and it's OK when we go home alone. It's not the end of the world. We save the best for the best that the Creator has to offer us.

The better we learn the skills of communication and enhance our listening skills, we will spot them every time. Maybe we'll even get a good laugh, just before we walk away, on to the next one. Let's face it, most of us are sensitive and loving people. We deserve all of the love, nurturing, and friendship that comes to us from a mate and that we are ready to give in return. We can not and should not give away our power. This is a gift that was given to us from birth, both to women and men. The more you give away the more chips away at your self esteem and self respect. Sometimes, both sexes are just looking for that one-night-thing. Look beyond the obvious, and that unspoken word. And do not be surprised if you get that "ha-ha!" moment.

They do not deserve that from you, and you should not be willing to give it to them, so easily without investing time and patience on your part. The stronger aspect of communication is to listen more than we talk, when we first meet someone. Let them tell you about them. To show that you are actually listening by occasionally repeating what they said, or ask a question relating to a comment that was made and they'll know you are listening.

You Got Him, Now Keep Him:

If you are already in a stable and secure relationship, do you use that old tried and true, listening technique? Ladies, men do not know everything that they would have us to believe, on all subjects. When he is trying to share something with you for the fifteenth time about what is bothering him about you or the way your relationship is going, let's say, and why he's not so forthcoming anymore, but wants to clear the air now, you need to stop and really listened to what he is trying to tell you. Is something happening there that makes him feel inadequate? Just take a deep breath and stop talking. Listening is a huge part of communication, as well.

If you do not learn to listen to your mate, somebody else will! Maybe it's that we fast talk our way through the conversation, and they can not get a word in edgewise. This is after you asked him to loosen up just a bit and let you in. As soon as we hear a statement from them that we do not like, unzipped go the lips and off we go again. Or, we notice a slight raise in their tone of voice, or their emotional expression changes and we feel they are going on the defense. Still we need to keep our mouth shut long enough to let them say what they need to say, and be heard. If you do not the next thing you could hear from them is, "see, this is why I do not talk to you anymore!" Egypt "you just do not listen!" and or maybe they just turn their back and walk off.

It Is Time For A Change:

Enough of that ladies, we have to change our communication methods if our relationship is important to us. It is the pattern that, if all of our past relationships went down this same road, we must stop, now. Maybe that's what they do to us, when we're trying to tell them how we feel, as well. You do not want them to push further away and seek the ear of someone else. We do not need any help from another woman, to talk to our man. Just a little silence and patience will get the job done from us. No outsiders needed, just open and relaxed one-on-one from the two of us. If that moment is too tense, wait for or create that special moment to gradually bring it up, after you both are loosened up and had a few laughs. Ask calmly if you could revisit that topic he was trying to get at, and that no matter what, you are ready to listen, and not a word from you until he's finished. Honest!

Communication is an art and if we really love and respect ourselves and our mate, then we need to practice this skill, at every possible instance, in order to get better at it. Practice does not make perfect, it makes us better. Honest and effective communications will help us to slay that beast. Who knows, just maybe, you've found that diamond in the rough!

Payless Vs Famous Footwear – Understand the Differences and Similarities

If you are looking for shoes and you are wondering which store is better to go to, Payless or Famous Footwear, then you need to understand the benefits of choosing either store. Each store is good, but you are going to find some key differences that might make you choose one over the other. Right out of the gate, I can tell you that Famous Footwear has many name brand shoes while Payless does not. Nevertheless, this is not the only reason you might choose to go to one store over the other.

Now the main reason to go to Payless over Famous Footwear is simple. When you go to Payless you are going to pay less money. In fact, you might be able to get multiple pairs of shoes for what you would pay at the other store. When it comes to Famous Footwear, a lot of their shoes are athletic and there are not as many choices to get anything else. Payless offers other benefits such as nice looking bags and other accessories.

On the other hand, you have many people who feel that Famous Footwear has better overall shoes. This is referring to the quality. Many people think the quality is just better. Then you have some people who feel that Famous Footwear has more shoes overall. This may or may not be true depending on the size of the store you go to. However, one thing is for sure, most people agree that Payless has more accessories.

Most people believe that a discount shoe store like Payless is not good because the shoes are inferior. They believe this because they shoes are cheap. Understand that designer shoes are more expensive not only because they are made with expensive materials, but because the methods used to make them as well as the brand. The manufacturing process for making name brand shoes is usually harder, more work is needed as well. Some shoes might even be handcrafted, which is definitely going to make them cost more.

Payless has a similar manufacturing process for the shoes they make. But you are not paying a premium for the brand name attached to the shoe, which can be significant. I will use a certain name brand for example to shoe the different. You can get a Ralph Lauren polo shirt for $90.00. If you get the same shirt, same craftsmanship and quality at a place like Target it is only going to be $25.00 or less. This is because there is not a little jockey on the chest of the shirt. That is a difference of $65.00. It works the same way with shoes.

Famous Footwear is good for those who want name brands for less. Payless is for those who want quality without having to spend an arm and a leg because there is a certain brand name attached. Each store gives you the chance to find good deals. One just might have more of what you want then the other.

Your Fireplace's First Fire

As winter approaches, you may be one of the lucky few that have recently installed a new fireplace in your home. Whether it is a typical brick fireplace, or a contemporary type there are some things you need to understand before you start your first fire. One contemporary type, ventless gas models, essentially require the user to turn it on and the technology takes care of the rest, but other types require the user to build a fire similar to building a fire at a campsite or in an outdoor fireplace.

Here is a quick checklist and brief description of each item to get you started:

-Open the damper of the chimney

-Ensure the chimney has positive draft. In other words, the chimney and fireplace are designed to suck the smoke from the fire up the chimney shaft and outside the home instead of your living room. To do this, simply light a match and hold it adjacent to the start of the chimney outlet inside the firebox. The flame of the match should bend in the direction of the outlet. If this happens, your chimney is ready to go.

-Building a perfect fire starts with using seasoned firewood cut to the appropriate length. Seasoned firewood has typically been cut, split, and stacked a season prior to when it is used. If you do not have access to timber, you can find several local vendors which will be happy to sell you a cord of firewood.

-Place crumbled up paper under the wood grates, usually ten pieces of paper will work, then cover with small kindling or a premanufactured fire starter log.

-Safely light the crumbled up paper and its fire will light the kindling on fire. Once the kindling is on fire and is burning brightly, place a few (no more than three) small pieces of seasoned firewood onto the fire.

-Place the fireplace screen over the hearth or close the door on the wood burning fireplace insert.

-After the season firewood is burning swiftly, add a few additional pieces being careful not to tumble out the fire and not to overload the firebox creating excess heat.

While the fireplace is in use, it is important that the fireplace screen is in place for safety purposes. Many individuals have purchased contemporary fireplace accessories, including beveled glass enclosures or have designed their brick fireplaces to have integral inserts which have doors as opposed to screens or enclosures. Which ever type you have, safety remains first as burns from a fireplace can be very serious.

8 Compliments Your Guy Would Love to Hear and Will Never Forget

Men love being complimented too, and of course wanting to be praised is a human need. Making a guy fall for you is no cake walk and can get tougher than rocket science at times. But complimenting him at the right time and sitting the right notes can make him think about you almost all day. To make this daunting task of complimenting him easier for you, here is the bucket list of the compliments he will love and never forget.

1. "I FEEL THE SAFEST WITH YOU …"

He will absolutely love this one, men have this innate instinct of protecting their girl and the fact that their girl feels the safest with them is "mission accomplished".

2. "WHEN YOU WRAP YOUR ARMS AROUND ME … I FORGET ALL MY WORRIES …"

He will the happiest on hearing this because the high that a man gets on knowing that his girl is totally stress free because of his presence matches no other high. This not only makes him happy but boosts his self confidence by a multiple folds.

3. "YOU HAVE A BODY THAT ALL GIRLS DIE TO FEEL …"

By saying this you have pressed the right buttons girl. He would not stop thinking about what you just said and yes he will never ever forget this compliment. What more his visits to the gym will be really regular because he can not afford to let go that hot body …

4. "I LOVE IT WHEN OTHER GIRLS LOOK AT YOU AND ENVY ME … BECAUSE THE BEST BELONGS TO ME …"

Now! you have really nailed it. This compliment will totally sway him away … Simply because he will be clear about the fact that you are not one of those old school girls who nags her guy every time a girl checks him out and at the same time, he will be crystal clear about the fact that he's taken and you are possessive about him.

5. "I CAN COOK FOR YOU ENDLESSLY..SEEING YOU EAT WELL MAKES ME HAPPY …"

Girls do not forget … our mums always said "The way to your man's heart is through his stomach" … Your cooking favorite dishes will mean a lot to him and the fact that you feel happy when he eats well will make him really sure about you being the one he can really get home for life!

6. "YOU FIT THE FRAME OF MY KIND OF GUY SO PERFECTLY …"

Can a guy ask for anything more? These two lines sum it up so beautiful! If he gets to know that he has everything you ever wanted in your guy, bingo! You have managed a clean sweep girl!

7. "I TOTALLY LOVE IT WHEN PEOPLE CALL US A GOOD LOOKING COUPLE …"

Yes! He would love to hear this because he knows that you are hot and beautiful, but what he does not know or wants to hear is that you think you guys look wonderful and really good looking together!

8. "YOUR EYES ARE A MAJOR GIVE AWAY ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENING INSIDE … I CAN LOOK INTO YOUR EYES FOREVER …"

By saying this you have made him realize how much you observe him and how much you feel for him. Guys like passionate and warm girls. He will never forget this observation you made because only people who would love him dearly would notice such little details about him.

Ps (After getting all these compliments on different occasions, if he tells you you can not stop thinking about you … Please do not blame us!)

Views From Seats Around The Indianapolis Motor Speedway Track

In part 3 of this series we describe the various seating views on the outside of the south end of the Indianapolis Motor Speedway. The south end of the Brickyard covers slightly more than a mile of track and includes the Southwest Vista, the South Vista, Grandstand G and the Southeast Vista.

RESERVING YOUR SEATS: At the Brickyard 400 all seats are reserved. But if you want to reserve the same seat year after year, you must purchase your tickets from the Indianapolis Motor Speedway (IMS) directly. Getting on the renewal list requires you to not only purchase your tickets from the IMS, it also requires you to purchase your tickets each year right after the race. Once you get on the IMS ticket purchasing list you can also ask to be placed on the list to upgrade your tickets as better tickets become available.

It may take many years before you earn the right to purchase prime tickets, but if this is your goal, you better get started now. The IMS will allow you to reserve your seats for your lifetime and then they will allow you to pass your renewal rights to your children. They will not, however, allow your children to pass it down to their children.

GRANDSTAND INFORMATION: The Indianapolis Motor Speedway offers grandstands on the inside and the outside of the track. All grandstands on the inside of the track end with Terrace in its name. Grandstands on the outside of the track include Vistas, Paddock, Penthouse or a Grandstand with a letter in the name. The IMS has removed all infield grandstands in the turns. If your seating chart shows grandstands on the inside corner of the speedway, it is outdated. See the updated seating chart at the Brickyard 400 Seat Photos on this website for an updated seating chart. The following list provides detailed information about each grandstand at the speedway.

SOUTHWEST VISTA: The views from the Southwest Vista located at the end of turn 1 at the south end of the Indianapolis Motor Speedway provides a view of turn 1, the short chute and turn 2. The seating in this grandstand is bench style with no backs . There is no roof covering these grandstands. As with most other grandstands at the Brickyard, the best views are up high in the stands. You must have seats in the double letter rows in order to have a good view of the track. There is no view of the front straightaway from this grandstand. The closest parking to this grandand would be the Main Gate Lot and Lot 2.

SOUTH VISTA: Sitting on the outside of the track between turns 1 and 2 is the South Vista. This grandstand provides views of Turn 1, turn 2 and the short chute. No view of the front straightaway or the back stretch is possible from these seats. The seats are bench style with no backs. There is no roof structure covering this grandstand. The closet parking to this grandand would be Main Gate Lot and Lot 2. Double letter rows offer the best view of the track. Seating in the single letter rows have a somewhat less expansive view of the track and are partally constructed by the catch fence.

GRANDSTAND G: This grandstand sits on the outside of the track in the south short chute. The seats in this grandstand are bench style with no backs and there is no roof covering the seats. The Main Gate Lot and Lot 2 would probably be the closest parking lots. The best views are high into the grandstand. This grandstand is somewhat smaller, height wise, than the South, SW and SE Vista grandstands. From this grandstand you can see turns 1 and 2. Views from the seats in the single letter rows are more constructed by the catch fence.

SOUTHEAST VISTA: This grandstand sits in Turn 2 on the outside of the track. The seats in this section are bench style seats with no backs. There is no roof covering this grandstand. Best views of the track from this grandstand will be found in sections 17, 18, 19, and 20 high in the double letter rows. The Main Gate Lot and Lot 2 would probably be the closest designed IMS lot. Views from the single letter rows are somewhat obstructed by the catch fence.

Why You Should Use Proven Wood Furniture Plans To Make You Next Furniture Project A Success

Starting any wood furniture project requires the use of good plans. You will want to be able to reference these plans as you go step by step through the project. This is true for both the beginner or journeyman wood worker. Using easy to follow wood furniture plans will help you avoid many of the pitfalls that you would otherwise encounter. Some of the problems you could encounter if you choose to avoid using a reliable or no furniture plan at all are as follows:

1. Wasting valuable material because you are not sure the proper step by step procedure to complete a certain process. This is critical because not following the proper step by step building process could lead to building a part of the furniture structure that is not necessary yet. This piece would there before have to be trashed.

2. Not getting the project completed because you end up finding it almost impossible to get to end product you originally had in mind. Having a picture of the end product combined with simple step by step instructions, will help guide you in a logical way, to achieve the desired end result.

3. Spending more time than you anticipated . Lets face it, if you have a busy schedule, you want to get your wood furniture project completed in a reasonable amount of time. Using an inferior wood furniture plan or none at all will most certainly cause you spend way more time than you are able to afford.

4. Wasting Money. Encountering any of the previous three pitfalls will waste money.

5. Using wood furniture plans that are incomplete and difficult to follow . You will need plans that give you easy to follow step by step instructions so you can get your furniture project completed in a timely and cost-effective manner.

6. Out-of-date plans. Your wood furniture plans should discuss the latest and most modern materials and tools you can use. Modern materials and tools are designed to save you time and money.

7. Low quality blueprints and schematics. Having easy to read schematics and blueprints that are in color will make the step by step construction of your furniture project much easier. These diagrams have to be clear and concise, so making them easy to read and therefore easy to understand.

In summary using quality wood furniture plans will help make your project an enjoyable one. These plans will help you avoid the above pitfalls. Of course you will have access to access to these plans. The internet is a great source for these, but remember you get what you pay for. Choose wisely.

The Different Types Of Paleo Snacks

A Paleolithic diet (commonly called a Paleo or "caveman" diet) is a diet lifestyle based on the theory that our bodies are not designed to eat processed foods and we should only eat those foods that would have been available during the Paleolithic era. It emphasizes natural, unprocessed foods that can be eaten without preparation. Paleo diet advocates claim that health problems like obesity, type 2 diabetes and heart disease are "diseases of civilization" caused by modern, packaged and processed foods.

The very first thing on the list of "Paleo Snacks" is "Fresh fruit of any kind." Nuts are on there (limit to 4 ounces a day if you're trying to lose weight) and dried fruit (limit to 2 ounces a day). Cold meats, raw vegetables, avocado and / or tomato slices, homemade salmon and beef jerky, hard boiled egg (limit to six a week – he's not a big fan of eggs) and unsalted sunflower seeds (limit to 4 ounces a day) are all on there.

Beef recipes are packed with nutrients such as amino acids, minerals, and proteins. Beef can be called a powerhouse of nutrients because it is loaded with 10 vital nutrients, that aids in tissue repair and Promotes body functions. Beef dishes are tasty and filling too. You can prepare these beef dishes on all special occasions or otherwise.

An excellent Paleo recipes resource is cookbooks. Paleo Cookbooks are a compilation of the best Paleo recipes available and they gather recipes for different types of meals. When you make stone age recipes with modern foods, remember you want to insure that all of the ingredients are free of (1) Grains, (2) Legumes including peanuts, beans, peas, soybeans, tofu, soy milk and flour (almond flour (4) Salt, (5) Yeast including bread goods, pickled foods, vinegar, fermented foods and fermented beverages (all contain yeast), (6) ) processed sugars, (7) excess added fats except for permitted oils. You should try and choose the leanest cuts of grass-fed free-range meats. remember, the mainays of the paleo diet are fresh fruit, vegetables, lean meats and seafood.

Nutrition is the ultimate legal drug that can make or break your performance, drastically improve recovery, and give you the added mental clarity and focus needed to get through nine grueling events in 48 hours.

Eat meat and vegetables, nuts and seeds, some fruit, little starch and no sugar. Keep intake to levels that will support exercise but not body fat. Practice and train major lifts: Dead lift, clean, squat, presses, clean and jerk, and snatch. Similarly, master the basics of gymnastics: pull-ups, dips, rope climbs, push-ups, sit-ups, presses to handstand, paralettes, flips, splits, and holds. Bike, run, swim, row, etc, hard and fast. Five or six days per week mix these elements in as many combinations and patterns as creativity will allow. Routine is the enemy. Keep workouts short and intense. Regularly learn and play new sports.

Going "paleo" is about creating a new lifestyle habit. It's about lifelong dietary change. Not the typical 2 week diet where you count calories, lose 5 pounds of water weight, then gain it back a week later.

How to Choose Carpeting For Stairs

Most manufacturers rate their carpeting for light, medium, and heavy wear. Heavy-wear rating is best for stairs. If a carpet is not rated, you can judge its durability by the density of the fibers.

Roll a corner of the carpet around your fingers. Little or no backing should be visible at the base of the fibers. Look too for a strong backing to which fibers are firmly attached.

One needs to consider how the carpet will look when it gets lots of day-to-day traffic.

Good choices are tweeds, patterns, and tightly looped or highly twisted textures in medium colors.

Any of these will show fewer footprints and less soil than plush or velvet. If you do buy plush or velvet carpet, choose one with a lower pile. Avoid light and dark colors and piles with extreme variations in height. Back your carpet choice with the best quality of padding available.

To prolong carpet life, vacuum stairs frequently and shampoo them about every 6 months. To attain additional life, you can have an extra foot folded under the front of the top or the bottom riser when the carpeting is installed. Then, before heavy wear at the front of each stair tread becomes obvious, move the carpet up or down by a few inches or so.

An important tip to remember is when you are carpeting any stairs; make sure it is a tight installation because loose fitting carpet on steps can be dangerous and potentially cause harm if someone should slip or trip due to poor installation.

Hill Station Train Tours Of India

Introduction

India has mesmerized the imagination of the domestic tourists in general and international tourists in special with its railway network ranking second largest in the world. The unique part of this Indian Railway network is its provision of hill stations tours by trains. Some of these hill station trains are also known as Toys Trains of India. However, India has over 63,000 Km of track laid between 7000 stations divided into 9 Zones – Western, Central, Eastern, Northern, North Eastern, Northeast Frontier, Southern, South Central and South Eastern.

1. Darjeeling Himalayan Railway

The Darjeeling Himalayan Railway (DHR) connects the plains of West Bengal at New Jalpaiguri with the hill station of Darjeeling. On the way, it passes the most breathtaking scenery and climbs to a height of 7400 feet at Ghum (the highest station in India and the second highest in the world), from where glimpses of the magnificent Mt. Kanchenjunga are visible on clear days.

2. The Kangra Valley Railway

No one could have thought of making a finer selection of territory for building a new mountain railway in India than the Kangra valley. Few places can match this scenic region in the sub-Himalayas. One will stumble across a land that has cast its magic spell upon those who planned the railway and those who built the line. The Kangra Valley Railway presents to the traveler, a chance to gaze as long as he likes on the ever present panorama of snow-clad ranges and the gold green fields without being swung round every few minutes can greet the scenery. March and April are the best months to visit the valley when it is covered with wild Rambler Roses, Oleanders, Rhododendron and fruit blossoms.

3. Kalka – Shimla Railway

The Kalka-Shimla Railway with 96.54 kilometer line offers a panoramic experience to experience the grandeur of the picturesque Himalayas from the Shivalik foot hills at Kalka to several important points such as Dharampur, Solan, Kandaghat, Taradevi, Barog, Salogra, Summerhill, Shimla and beyond up to the silvery snow line near the towering peaks. It runs through 102 tunnels, 864 bridges, only one of which is a 60 feet plate girder span and a steel truss. The others are viaducts with multi-arched galleries like the ancient Roman aqueducts.

4. Nilgiri Mountain Railway

The Nilgiri Mountain Railway (NMR), the only rack railway in India and uses Abt system, connects the town of Mettupalayam with the hill station of Udagamandalam, in the Nilgiri Hills of southern India. Both towns are in the state of Tamil Nadu. Snaking through 16 tunnels and tall girder bridges, the climb offers breathtaking vistas of plantation and fir-clad hills.

5. Matheran Light Railway

Matheran means "The Wooded Head" or the jungle topped. Over its length of 19.97 kilometers, there are 221 curves, the sharpest being 1270 equal to 18.25 m., 121 bridges, only one tunnel and a steep winding gradient. Neral, the starting station of this line, falls near midway on the Mumbai-Pune route of the central railway. The journey up to Matheran from Neral takes about one-and-a-half hours.

Lesbian Infidelity: When Your Girl Is Cheating?

Sitting on the edge of the bed, listening, to words without sound that only provoke horrific images that you never wanted to wonder, in your mind your trapped.

There is nothing more painful, other than death to hear that the person you are in love with and want, telling you they have had an affair or were intimate with another. We hear the stories and at times we even are witness to the betrayal, but we never want to venture to think it could ever happen to us “me, no, we have something special and I would know right away.”

A friend once told me, that it been so long since her girlfriend had touched her that she just thought it was stress and the natural progression of a relationship to stop being passionate, so when she came home to find her girlfriend on the steps and her car packed, she felt confused. In hind sight, she said she should have seen the signs, but I told her “how could you? Who wants to see that coming?” she smiled and gently respond “it would have been nice to prepare for the pain.”

I guess it is very similar to a natural disaster, we hear the alarms and sirens ringing, but really there is no where to hide or know the damage it will make. We can think we are prepared, but until we see the destruction we really just don’t know.

Feelings of abandonment, distress, shame, and anger take over and recovery seems so faraway and beyond repair that part of our spirit is left behind forever. The number of Lesbian couples affected by infidelity is unknown, again there is little research or studies that are done in this area; however, we know that it is something that affects us deeply and the lack of support from society and our community has a great impact on our healing or lack of.

Most Lesbian relationship will not survive infidelity, as women have greater difficulty separating sex from emotion and usual will develop an attachment with the woman they are having the affair with. Forgiveness is difficulty to establish in situations like this as the person cannot forget the affair, as the relationship may not be purely based on sexual intercourse.

The affair is then the beginning of the end of the relationship, and finds a way out through another. We are known as serial monogamy partners, jumping from one relationship to the next with no time in between to heal. This is unfortunate part of our community as it breeds unhealthy people and relationship. Before we have even erased the image of our past partner with another woman naked in our heads we are already in the bed with another woman with all our hurt, distrustful, and vulnerable baggage.

I feel it is even more painful for Lesbians when a relationship end from an affair as we already feel isolated from our communities and society it’s even lonelier when our partner, our friend, leaves. Some of us have left our families, lost friends, and changed out entire lives to be with a woman and to be left can be dilapidated. We rely so much on our lover, that when it ends it blinding.

Here are some tips on dealing with the topic of infidelity:

  1. Right at the start sit down and discuss your own personal thoughts on fidelity, and what your boundaries and rules will be as individuals in this relationship.
  2. Ask each others history as past behaviors are a good predictor of future behavior. Yes people can change but repetition is a problem.
  3. Give yourself time to heal. Try not to jump into another relationship, without answering all the questions that torment you from your past and working on a plan for your future.
  4. Work on rebuilding your self-esteem. Going trough an affair can leave us with a skewed view of ourselves.
  5. Spend time with friends and family, or even go to the gym, join a club anything to begin building your social support network.
  6. In your new relationship, create a safe space that allows you to be vulnerable, emotionally and sexually exposed in a loving and respectful way.
  7. Work on forgiveness and trust. You can’t forgive or trust you can’t be open to let another love you more deeply.

You will survive the pain, you will change and the choice is yours, which direction you take. You may choose to become resentful and angry at the world or you could learn and discover where healing from your past needs to happen, become more focused and determine as to what you want and will not lose yourself for.

Alex Karydi~The Lesbian Guru

How to Become a 3D Rendering Professional in Diverse Industries

One of the most thought after skills nowdays is 3D rendering. From construction to entertainment, 3D rendering skills are greatly valued. With the manifestation of the benefits of using this tool in various industries, it Is easy to understand why a lot of people are interested to learn 3D rendering. But how does one become a 3D rendering professional?

There is no degree offering purely 3D rendering, but there are voluntary schools for it and there are seminars, too. 3D rendering skills must also be matched with other skills in order to make money from it. This article will provide a quick overview of what a person needs to learn in order to become a 3D renderer.

Graphic Design

Graphic artists will always be in demand because people will always look for beauty and order in things. They always want to be amazed visually and stunning by beauty.Those who wants to be a 3D graphic designer may want to consider taking up graphical design or visual arts in college to hone their design skills. After all, what good are a person's 3D rendering skills if the graphics he or she creates are not visually appealing?

Field to study: Fine Arts, Design

Architecture

Human beings will always build structures because that's how civilization grows. When it comes to building designs, architects are kings. Architects have a skill that's important to a 3D renderer: drafting. Technical drawing, or the ability to make and interpret plans is a useful skill for any 3D rendering professional. Most 3D rendering companies like Power Rendering require this skill from their employees. Architects accept 3D architectural rendering jobs during their free time or they choose to do them full-time, that's how lucrative they are.

Fields to study: Architecture, Engineering

Gadgets Designers

Not a lot of people know this, but the phones and other gadgets that use every day are designed using 3D rendering. This is how companies manage to make phones and computers smaller and smaller. To work in this field, a person must have knowledge in electronics. Studying even just a two-year electronics course before jumping into the 3D rendering is the way to go if a person wants a career in this field.

Field to study: Electronics

3D rendering skills can bring in a lot of employment opportunities for a person. However, they must have some background knowledge of the field where they will use their rendering skills. For example, it's difficult to be a 3D architectural renderer if it does not have knowledge in architecture. 3D rendering is a technology that supports many industries and those who are good at it will make a lot of money.

Ideas for Beginner Woodworking Projects

Hanging Organizer-You can build, essentially, a wood sign and affix interesting handles, knobs or hooks for hanging keys. You can make one with a magnetic strip for hanging knives in the kitchen. Heavy duty hooks can be used to create a great place to hang bags, purses, coats and backpacks. Simple products like this are great for practicing using a router to make edges and for practicing different staining and finishing techniques.

Birdhouse-A birdhouse is a great place to start practicing creating joints. You can use a router to make slats for creating joints, practice mortise and tenon joints, or practice making peg joints with wooden dowels. You can even leave the back side off of the birdhouse, attach a few suction cups, and display the birdhouse on the outside of your kitchen window. You'll love watching the nest from inside of the house.

Step Stool-A step stool is a great way to practice making sturdier items that need to bear some weight. Make several sizes to work your way up to building chairs and benches.

Folding Table-Small folding tables are great to have around the house. You can use them to eat on while watching television, or use them as a place to set your drink while you're working. Some people use these little portable tables all over the house.

Bench-Make a bench for your foyer or yard. Experiment with creating benches that have backs and also ones that do not. Benches are not very hard, but they do require learning about creating braces and cutting at an angle.

Wine Glass Slider-You can use dowel rods or thin pieces of wood mounted underneath your cabinets to make a slide to store wine glasses. This is an easy project, but it will give you the opportunity to learn how to match the stain and finish of your kitchen cabinets. Once you discover the right combination of stain and lacquer, you may wish to build other kitchen items, like a bread box, letter organizer, or pull down recipe book holder.

Wine Bottle Holder-This can be a small structure that sits on top of your counter, or one that hangs from the kitchen cabinets. Larger ones can sit on the floor. Simple projects like this make great gifts and can be painted to give the room personality.

Dog House-Creating a shelter for your pets is fun and gives you a chance to work on projects that will need to be finished for outdoor use.

Tool Box-Make a tool box for yourself to store or transport your woodworking tools. Use a sturdy hardwood dowel as a handle or for hanging things inside the box. You'll not only find this project fun, but you'll have a useful keepsake when you're done.

Back Pain Caused By Track And Field

As spring arrives, many people are returning to their favorite warm weather sports. For many students and adult athletes, this means a return to track and field. It is important to educate yourself about the common injuries associated with your sport in order to guard yourself against back pain and other conditions that can take you out of competition.

A number of injuries can occur during any sport. The following describes a few common injuries associated with the various activities of track and field.

Runners

Most people, whether athletes or office workers, tend to have weaker hamstrings than quadriceps. This imbalance causes the pelvis to be pulled down in front and increases the lumbar arch. As the back arches in more, the discs in between vertebrae are compressed unevenly and the spinal joints are strained. Combined with the jolting force your body experiences as your feet pound against the ground when running, joint and disc problems become likely. Weak hamstrings are also susceptible to strains. Runners should take special care to ensure their quads and hamstrings are balanced in strength and flexibility.

Another muscle group runners should be aware of is the hip flexor group, particularly the psoas. This muscle is used when bringing the thigh and upper body closer together. The psoas connects the lumbar spine to the thigh bone and is used heavily when running. Tight, inflexible psoas muscles pull down on the pelvis and create the exaggerated lumbar arch that tight quads create. Running without regaining flexibility of the psoas will likely worsen its rigidity and exacerbate pelvic misalignment, which in turn causes lower back pain.

Regular stretching and myofascial release can help achieve muscles that are balanced in strength and flexibility. The assistance of a physical therapist is beneficial to people with sports injuries.

Hurdlers

Muscle strains are common among hurdlers, especially in the groin and thigh. Groin strain is generally a sign of either bad form or overuse. If you feel groin pain on the side of your trail leg, you may be swinging your leg out too far or too late. If the pain is on the side of your lead leg, you may be doing too many drills with the hurdles close together.

Hamstring strains are a common overuse injury acquired by hurdlers. The hamstring of the lead leg undergoes an eccentric contraction during a hurdle jump, which means it contracts as it is being lengthened by the leg’s straightening. This type of contraction comes with a high risk of muscle tearing. The trail leg works hard to push the body off the ground. Hamstring strain is a sign to stop, rest, and warm up sufficiently before practicing.

More troubling than a simple muscle strain, hurdlers have to watch out for sacroiliac (SI) joint dysfunction. The sacroiliac joints form where the hip bones meet the sacrum at the base of the spine.

Injuries to the SI joints generally occur when the muscles and ligaments that support them are weakened, torn or tightened. The tremendous forces sustained by the pelvis when pushing off the ground can, over time, destabilize the pelvis, causing significant joint pain. Proper form, adequate rest time, good conditioning and sufficient warmup time can help prevent this condition.

Throwers

Whether it’s a javelin, discus or shot put, throwers are susceptible to similar injuries. Throwers in track and field use muscles throughout the whole body to build momentum; javelin throwers run, while shot putters and discus throwers spin.

The most common throwing injury occurs to the shoulder. Rotator cuff injuries affect the set of muscles and tendons that surround the shoulder, giving it stability and allowing up-and-down and rotational movement of the arm. Repeated throwing can cause tears to the muscles or tendons.

Hip and lower back strains may also occur in throwers, particularly discus throwers and shot putters who twist their bodies as part of their throw. Javelin throwers may also strain muscles throughout the back when lunging forward to throw the javelin.

The best defense against throwing injuries is to avoid overworking your arm and back. Know your limits and take adequate rest periods between practices.

Many sports injuries can be prevented with warmup, conditioning, self-myofascial release and the willingness to give your body the time it needs to recover. Whatever your track and field activity, approach it in a way that will allow you to enjoy your sport for many years to come.

History of Pasta

When most people talk about pasta, they probably think of Italy as its birth place. Historians would disagree however, and give credit to our neighbors in the east for inventing the earliest form of this much loved food.

It was around 1700 BC when the Chinese came up with a noodle made from rice flour. While not a popular theory with those who insist on giving credit to the Italians, the Chinese do get the vote from most historians.

That does not mean that the Italians were not major players in the evolution of pasta as we know it. Around 400 BC the Etruscans, who live in an area in the western part of Italy, made a noodle similar to lasagna. This noodle was made from spelt, a grain from which wheat has evolved.

Much later the Romans are credited with making a noodle similar to the one made by the Etruscans, out of flour and water. These noodles, like the earlier versions by the Chinese, were prepared by baking in an oven.

Boiled noodles came later and the Italians do not get credit for inventing these either. Instead, we can thank Arab traders who would bring dried noodles along on their very long trips to the Orient. Who does not want a hot meal while traveling? The Arabs did, and they realized that this dried pasta along with a little boiling water was a quick, hot and easy to carry meal.

The Arabs bought this food with them to Sicily during the 8th century invasions. Before too long the Italian city of Palermo was producing huge quantities of dried pasta. So, can we give Italians the credit for mass producing pasta? Much to the delight of the Italians, most historians would say, yes.

Specifically, Naples gets the credit for the invention of techniques that allowed dried pasta to be produced en masse in 1600's. This pasta, which could last long time, is credited with bringing Naples out of an economic depression. No wonder Italians love their pasta!

This pasta was often sold by street vendors and was ate with the bare hands. If you're thinking the sauce must have made quite a mess then you're jumping ahead in the story. Pasta at this time was eaten either plain or sprinkled with cheese. It's not until a couple of centuries later that sauce is introduced.

The first written record of a tomato sauce recipe is 1839. Soon pasta was becoming popular all over the country of Italy, and pastas of various shapes were being introduced. Still, even with its popularity, pasta was being made by small family businesses. Spaghetti, macaroni and vermicelli were being handmade by those specially trained in the art of pasta making.

The Agnese family changed all of that in 1824 when they opened the very first pasta factory in Northern Italy. It's easy to see why Italians get the credit for this favorite food, and in the United States a wave of Italian immigration would help the cement the idea that pasta was an Italian food.

Even though Thomas Jefferson had brought pasta to America as early as the late 1700's, the food did not become widely popular in the country until 1880-1900 when large numbers of Italian immigrants came to America, bringing pasta with them.

The next several years would bring even more advances for pasta such as the addition of meatballs and later, thanks to the Franco-American company, canned pasta.

Pasta has a place in American history as well. In the 1920's farmers used pasta as a marketing campaign for wheat. During the depression, the inexpensive and filling dish became a staple in many households.

Today, pasta is as popular as ever. In tiny sidewalk cafés to the fanciest of gourmet restaurants, you are sure to find a few pasta dishes on the menu. Whether you choose to thank the Italians for this delicious food or their eastern neighbors, we can all agree that our dinner tables would not be the same without this fabulous food.

How To Build Bigger Muscles And Burn Fat At The Same Time

Most people want to know how to build bigger muscles, while burning a large amount of fat at the same time. In fact, some say you can definitely do both at the same time where others deny otherwise.

This has been debated for quite some time now. Well, the answer to this question is yes and no and depends.

You see, you can build bigger muscles and burn fat at the same time. However, if you are using a fat loss exercise workout routine and also at the same time going through a fat loss diet, you will not be able to build a lot of muscles.

You will also burn more fats during your routines if your body possesses more muscles. Well, it is a common impression that more muscles will cause a person to look big and bulky, but this is not always the case.

Bodybuilders are known to have a small amount of body fat while having a huge amount of muscles.

The reason why body builders are able to burn fat and muscles because they do it in phases. It is called periodization in the muscle building world.

When body builders build muscles, their diet differs drastically from their exercise routines compared to when they are in the phase of losing fats. These body builders will build mass muscles for several months by segmenting different body part workout routines, as well as lifting heavy weight with low repetitions.

It is only that they will change their diet completely from one building muscle to one which is trying to lose fat.

If you have the time, energy and dedication, you may work toward that time of routine, hence, eventually becoming a body builder yourself.

But if you just a novice exerciser who just wants to burn fat and build muscles which are just nice, you can choose a routine and diet which you can burn fat and at the same time, burn a small amount of muscle.

A great way you can approach this to under cardio training combined with total body strength training.

You see when you perform total body strength training, this will help you increase your metabolism rate to help you burn the unwanted fats. When combined with the right type of cardio training, you are on the pathway to successfully burn fats and building larger muscles at the same time.

Not to forget, your diet will affect your capacity to burn fat and muscle too. Consuming quality protein, healthy fats, and complex carbohydrates in a small meal scale 4 – 6 times a day will help you burn more fats because your blood sugar is more constant to help in controlling your appetite.