When things are getting hot and heavy in the bedroom, dirty talk can make things even hotter and heavier. It’s hard to do it if you’re not used to it. Maybe your partner likes it, but you don’t have much experience with it. If you’ve grown up in a religious or a conservative household, you might find it hard to get yourself to utter some of the more sexual thoughts that are in your head. It’s OK to let it out, and it can be quite therapeutic, not to mention arousing. Here’s some tips to get you comfortable with it:
Tell your partner what you want to do to them. You’re human so you have lots of sexual thoughts every day. You might have an image in your head of a particular move or position that you want to try. Start by telling your partner what you have in mind. You could say something along the lines of “I want to put your head over here, and you’re legs over there, and…” Don’t be afraid to be graphic. You’ll be surprised that your partner will follow this exercise in imagination.
Tell them what you want them to do to you. Almost better than telling your partner the things you want to do to them is letting them know what you want done. You don’t have to wait for your partner to ask what you like. Let them know. Do it in a seductive and sultry manner and you won’t look selfish, you’ll look suggestive!
Don’t get too carried away. You should know your partner well enough to know what they’ll consider sexy and what they’ll consider sleazy or scary. Be sure to know your limits. It’s OK to test them every once in a while, but if you don’t think your partner is quite feeling it anymore, tone it down a bit. Some people
Take it seriously. If you are grinning and giggling like a school girl you’ll take away from the effect. Don’t play around with it, get into character and show your partner that you have a nasty side to you.
If they’re into it they’ll love it, and if they’re not, at least now you know. If you try it out and they don’t like it, just tell them you read about it in the latest issue of Cosmo and you won’t do it again. If you really like it but they don’t like it, you might not be compatible as partners. If you give it an honest try, and you avoid going over the top, most reasonable partners should be game to go along with it. They might need to warm up to it a bit, so don’t break it out until the time is right.