Kissing is one of the most important aspects of love making and can often make or break a relationship.
A kiss is often the first intimate physical contact that you have with a possible new lover or partner. From a kiss a person can often tell what kind of a lover you are or at least some say they can. Some people can reach orgasm by kissing alone. Not wanting to be kissed by your partner can be a signal of trouble in the relationship. If a kiss feels wrong, many women will just say good-bye to the guy.
Unfair you say. Well maybe not. You see from a Tantric perspective kissing is a powerful way to awaken, arouse and titillate your lover. To become a great kisser is really to become an artist with ones tongue and mouth.
Now I know this may sound fairly easy. I mean after all most of you have been kissing in one way or another for years and there are many variations of this theme. But what I am addressing here is the art of kissing to release the nectar that resides within the tantric subtle body as well as the electrical current that runs from the mouth to other erogenous zones.
Making kissing a daily ritual will juice up your relationship and re-ignite your passion. There are many different kinds of kisses: slow, wet, quick, deep, hard, soft, breathy, and then there is Tantric kissing. Kiss your lover at least twice a day and experiment with these different kinds of kisses. (Dr. Ava Cadell)
1. The Tantric Kiss – In this kiss you are actually breathing in your partner’s breath. You are not using tongues or any movement of any kind, but rather you share breath together. This kiss is very intimate. What could be more intimate that sharing the breath of your lover? This kiss can bring you into a state of harmony and flow with your partner. You forget time and space and are just breathing in and out with each other. To begin with, sit in Yab Yum or lie prone facing each other. Legs can be wrapped around each other or whatever way is most comfortable. Then, just touching lips, exhale into your lover’s mouth as they inhale your breath. Then your lover exhales while you inhale. It may take some practice to get the flow moving easily, but once achieved it is truly a kiss from heaven. Keep in contact with your lover by maintaining eye contact at least every now and then. I have found that I generally will close my eyes and just lose myself in the rhythm of our breathing.
2.Butterfly Kissing – Begin by very lightly and gently kissing your partner’s face, exploring their chin, cheeks, nose, eyelids and forehead with your lips. Take your time and build the energy. Like the wings of a butterfly your lips move over your lover’s face. Lightly kiss your partner’s lips. Take your tongue and brush gently over them. Then just gently kiss your partner’s lips from one corner to the other, sweet and flickering.
3. Libation Kiss – To release the nectar from your partner’s subtle body, take your tongue and rub it gently along the inside of their upper lip. The nectar is not saliva, but is warm and watery and stimulates the release of a ‘sexual dew’ that spills down through the body from the crown or uppermost chakra. In tantra remember you are not only working in the physical body but also the energetic and subtle bodies.
4. The Slow Deep Kiss – Now put your heart and body into a slow kiss alternating the pressure from gentle to deep with mouth slightly open.
5. The Nibble Kiss – Kiss your partner and gently nibble on their lower lip. This will send a jolt of electricity directly to the nipples or yoni of a woman, and to the lingam of a man.
6. Sucking Kiss – Wrap your lips around your lover’s tongue and suck passionately alternating your speed from slow to quick.
7. Exploratory Kiss – Explore the inside of your lover’s mouth with your tongue by running it in small and large circles.
8. Quick Silver Kiss – Dart your tongue in and out of your lover’s mouth rapidly and then slowly as if you were having intercourse. Remember to use your entire body and make all those wonderful sounds of love.
9. Melting Kiss – Begin by kissing gently. Then relax your lips, open your mouth just a bit and go deeper. Allow your mouth to melt into your partner’s and your tongue to relax. This type of kiss is truly my favorite. No one is directing it, and you and your partner can just flow with each other.
Remember to be creative and find if you like try chocolate, liquors or fruit when kissing, it can be a bit messy but oh so delicious..
The art of kissing takes lots and lots of practice. So create time with your lover or partner to kiss often. Kiss when you are walking down the street together. Kiss when you are waiting in the elevator. Kiss when you are walking the dog, cooking, doing the wash, when you first wake up and when you go to sleep. Practice, practice, practice. Try all of the above and invent a few of your own kissing techniques. And remember to have fun.
If you would like to study the art of kissing even more, why not try a kissing class at the Loveolog University.