Jealousy is among the strongest passions. It is even stronger than rage. It can even be the most overwhelming emotion when synergistically blended with rage. You may have read the adage:
“Jealousy is the dragon in paradise; the hell of heaven; and the most bitter of the emotions because associated with the sweetest.” – A.R. Orage
Indeed, many movies as well as real life dramas, love stories and relationships circle around this emotion. Devastating as it is, any kind of energy can be transformed into something that is positive.
The primary antidote of jealousy is feeling at ease and confident with oneself. If you know that you are lovable and you know that you deserved to love and be loved, then you will not have trouble entertaining thoughts that creates negative forecasts. There are several things that brings about jealousy; minimize or totally control these factors and you’ll over power jealousy.
A jealous mind is based on a negative forecast, the fear to be left abandoned and someone else takes place your place on your love one’s heart. Sometimes, this fear may either be a baseless intuition or mounted on empirical facts. Mistrust forms the most flesh of jealousy. In addition, jealousy fills in a cavity lacking self esteem. Here’s the trick: If you do not believe in yourself, no one else will.
Take these following facts of life and you will end up realizing that entertaining jealousy is a waste of time. First, if you are jealous, you are actually praising the other person because you are in fact saying that she or he is way better than you. If you believe he really is, the discussion stops here. The thing is that people are unique and have their own strengths and weaknesses. Likewise, relationships flourish mostly on an unexplained algorithm of synchronizing differences, personality union and other complexities. Secondly, if the magnetic bond between you and your partner is gone, whatever desperate measures you will undertake will all be flush down the drain. This is a fact. In most cases, the more you cling on, the more you are being shed off.
So, why waste your energy? If you feel jealousy knocking at your door, gracefully let it in and let it become a green light to your home. Let it be your go signal to freshen up and give yourself time to reflect on what should be done and what should be changed. Let it serve as a reminder to you that each day is a challenge to renew the magnetic bond. Most relationships go sour because it turned boring. Indeed, there is always the “other side” of anything!