Sherry Argov, New York Times bestselling author of “Why Men Marry Bitches,” and “Why Men Love Bitches,” obviously knows a lot about men, or at least her readers like what she has to say enough to make her a bestselling author. While you can certainly read her books and get some answers – do you really want to resort to being a “bitch” to get him to propose? She’s very honest in her book titles and says “Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman’s Guide to Winning Her Man’s Heart.”
Note the keywords she uses: “A Woman’s Guide.”
Answer this: who is better equipped to tell you how to win YOUR man’s heart – a woman – or a man? While there are definitely women in the world who will show you “how to please your man,” as evidenced by the many raunchy videos on the Internet, getting him to propose is an entirely different manner.
You can believe it or not – when it comes to marriage – a man isn’t ruled by his sexual organs. Sex and marriage aren’t in the same bucket for a man. Yes, sex comes with marriage, but it’s not the reason he gets married. The reasons a man gets married are much more complicated than that and they will vary with the man, but for most, it’s because his “gut feelings” are telling him “she’s the one.”
Getting him to that point won’t work if you’re trying to be a “bitch” or trying to manipulate him. Coercing or cajoling him won’t work either and will end up with him not only resenting you, but pulling away. A man’s gut instincts have long served him. His gut instincts don’t go through his brain for analysis like a woman’s intuition does, they are hard-wired into his entire being. It’s how he’s survived as a “hunter,” and made it through wars throughout the centuries. When his “gut instincts” kick in, he automatically responds, period.
Authors loved by the publishing industry because of high book sales are one thing. But anyone can claim “expert” status, write a book these days and be published on Amazon. Who would you go to get advice on “winning” his heart, expert or not — men with heart or a woman of unknown relationship status?
What does your “women’s intuition” tell you? Follow it for sure. Just like a man and his “gut instincts,” following your women’s intuition will never lead you astray.