Cheating on your boyfriend would be one of the worst things you can do to him especially if has been committed to you thus far. This is mainly because cheating not only betrays his trust but may also give him a perception that he is not good enough for you and in a way it challenges his manhood.
If your boyfriend eventually gives you a second chance in working out the relationship together after you apologizing, do not betray him again as second chances rarely happen especially if it is based on cheating.
A mere sorry would not be adequate in this case, as your boyfriend may still have trust issues with you and hence you should prove yourself worthy besides reassuring him that you love him and only him.
After he has forgiven you, take time to talk to him and explain your actions. Men rarely express their feeling easily and thus you should be the one to open him up, on what are his thoughts on your fling and how he feels. If he still isn’t opening up to you, ask him to write his thoughts on a piece of paper as writing may sometimes be the gateway to open someone’s heart.
One of the first things most men would ask is who you cheated on him with and also the details of the relationship. Be frank and truthful in your answers and also provide him with every detail you could possibly remember about your fling with this other man. Think of yourself being in his situation and understand that it is also a hard situation for him to cope with.
Besides that, if you’re afraid your boyfriend may eventually confront and hurt your ex-lover, it is OK to ask for his word that he won’t harm this person. Furthermore, you could even blame yourself for the relationship and stating that it was all your idea, but show your boyfriend how sorry you are in the process.
Most women nowadays want to be free and away from the constant monitoring of their boyfriend and husbands but in your case, if you have cheated on your boyfriend allow him to monitor, know your whereabouts and who you are with when you’re out. Put yourself in his place and picture yourself, the heartache and violation of trust that he has felt is nothing compared to him monitoring you, as you have to start rebuilding the trust he had for you before you cheated.
Give him truthful answers and constantly update him whenever he asks, even if you’re leaving to meet someone for a moment, give him exact details on where, when and who you’re going to meet up with. Besides that, allow him to check on your text messages, emails and call logs as this shows that you have given him your full commitment especially since you have nothing to hide. Eventually he’ll start to gain trust slowly and with time he’ll stop checking on you.
Making love is one of the most important elements that you have to incorporate into your relationship especially after a breakup caused by cheating. Most men see sex, as a medium to incorporate the spark back into their relationship and to mend their feelings on what had happened. Besides that, making love also provides a platform for them to reclaim lost territory, so to speak, and also prove that they are a man.
Men rely on physicality and actions to portray their emotions and love making can be considered an important part in mending a broken relationship. If your boyfriend is OK with it, set up a wonderful evening with him such as lighting candles and cooking him dinner. Tend to his needs and pamper him with care and love. You can also make that evening even more meaningful with rose flower petals on the bed and also soft music playing on the background, although men seldom acknowledge what they see around them, he’ll soon be mesmerized on how much you’ve put into making the evening perfect.
Men although portrayed as strong, masculine and hard hearted, they too have emotions and women should never take advantage of this. If your partner loves you, and is willing to do anything to make you happy, repay him the favor and stay loyal to him.
Cheating seldom leads to happiness, and most of the time you’ll eventually suffer with guilt that you have betrayed your man’s trust. Hence, love your partner truly and eventually your love life will be filled many more happy and memorable moments.